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  People here at Daily Kos probably already saw this article already, but for those who hasn't.... well, here it is:

  I have to say, all of the talking points in that article is so true!

   Birth control has far more uses beyond preventing you from having babies. It's been used to treat Cyst cancers, etc. Hell, the majority of young women mainly use it to control their periods. So that "Aunt Flo" doesn't act like a evil, raging b**h who likes to take a baseball bat to their stomach. (which is how periods often feel for some women out there). With the pill, the period is tamed into something the woman can actually control... as opposed to something utterly uncontrollable and painful.

 And then there's other medical uses for birth control, such as:
 #1: Lower cancer risk

Taking oral contraceptives (OCs) can slash your risk for both endometrial and ovarian cancer by more than 70 percent after 12 years; even just one to five years may lower your risk by 40 percent. They work by reducing the number of times you ovulate in your lifetime: Ovulation may trigger cell changes in the ovaries that can lead to cancer. If you're worried about using the Pill for too long, relax. "You can safely take the Pill for 20 years or more," says Stephanie Teal, M.D., director of family planning at the University of Colorado Health Sciences Center in Denver. Barring health issues, the only reason to stop is if you want to get pregnant.

 #2: Clearer skin
Estrogen - the female hormone found in most OCs - helps clear your skin by decreasing levels of testosterone, a male hormone that stimulates oil production. Although Ortho Tri-Cyclen is often used to treat acne, many pills, such as Yasmin or Desogen, can banish blemishes. You'll likely see results within a couple of months.

#3: Endometriosis relief

Endometriosis, a condition in which uterine-lining tissue grows in other pelvic areas, can lead to scarring, severe pain, and sometimes infertility. The Pill stops the growth of tissue in other areas by reducing the hormones that cause the lining to build up.

  And let's look at how many people actually use the pill for purely medical reasons:
  "The study—based on U.S government data from the National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG)—revealed that after pregnancy prevention (86%), the most common reasons women use the pill include reducing cramps or menstrual pain (31%); menstrual regulation, which for some women may help prevent migraines and other painful “side effects” of menstruation (28%); treatment of acne (14%); and treatment of endometriosis (4%). Additionally, it found that some 762,000 women who have never had sex use the pill, and they do so almost exclusively (99%) for noncontraceptive reasons.

Menstrual-related disorders and irregular periods are particularly common during adolescence. Not surprisingly, the study found that teens aged 15–19 who use the pill are more likely to do so for non-contraceptive purposes (82%) than for birth control (67%). Moreover, 33% of teen pill users report using oral contraceptive pills solely for noncontraceptive purposes.

“It is well established that oral contraceptives are essential health care because they prevent unintended pregnancies,” said study author Rachel K. Jones. “This study shows that there are other important health reasons why oral contraceptives should be readily available to the millions of women who rely on them each year.”

 Wow, women who use the pill aren't total slutbags... who knew? (actually, I did).

 And then there's the double standard that opponents of government-mandated birth control have. They actively condone using tax payer money to give men Viagra and penis pumps. And they give that out far more often than you'd think.

  Now to be fair.... Viagra gets the same rap that Birth Control pills do. It does in fact have real medical benefits going for it... which you can find out more about here:

 But, when you think about it.... why should one "sex" pill be okay to use for medical reasons, and be government-mandated while the other one is not? It just seems kind of unfair.

 Then there's the penis pumps... it honestly doesn't have that much medical benefit going for it unlike the Viagra. But it's apparently very good for performing surgeries on a guy's prostate. or treating poor blood flow to the penis.

 the guys who are so against women getting birth control from their insurance and companies..... they often say that they're gonna use it for "non-medical reasons". (if you know what I mean).
   So why shouldn't we turn it back on them? Accuse them of using the penis pumps that they get from insurance and their company for "Non-medical reasons".

 I mean, Fair is fair... right?


 If you ever tried to work with others in a group together before, and found the communication to be lacking or that it took too long to effectively solve a problem together.... then you might want to take a good look at this article. It has some good tips for making a better team, just from learning from how deaf people work together.

 What the Deaf can teach us about effective communication and quicker problem-solving.

My favorite snippet from the article itself:

To most of us, the idea that we could learn lessons in effective communication from people who can't hear very well – or at all – might seem like a bit of a oxymoron, but Dr Kahne insists that while deaf people can find it difficult to communicate effectively with hearing people, this is not the case when talking to other deaf people.

"Deaf people are not deaf when they are together, only when they are in contact with hearing people," he said, and adds that they are better communicators, "passing messages much faster and more precisely than any hearing person".

This is pretty much true... After I spend a lot of time with other deaf people like myself, I tend to find myself becoming impatient with hearing people because it always seem like forever when they're speaking to me about a project they need my help with.

 But with another deaf member, talking about it would take only one minute.... because we tend to think about it all, what to say, etc before we come into the room to talk to each other. our statements end up being far more "right to the point". We know better than hearing people how to convey a lot of information in a few sentences. As an result, we solve problems faster together as an group.

 Isn't that interesting how it ends up being like that?


 We all have that one friend that always look 15 years younger or older than their actual age, or maybe you're one of those people. and I can bet you a million dollars that we all have faced plenty of unique problems dealing with the fact that we don't really look our age. Those set of unique problems are espeically bad for us if a change of wardrobe and makeup can't even fix the way we look.

   I'm actually one of those people, and my situation is a pretty weird one sometimes.
  I was a very young kid who used to look older than my actual age. Hell, I even hit puberty at a very young age (9 years old)... which served to kind of stunt my growth a little bit once my body decided that it had grown up enough. So for a while there I looked much older than the rest of my classmates... It was only when I entered high school and then college that I started to look much younger than everyone else.

 So I experienced what it was like to be treated differently just because you looked older, and THEN looking younger compared to other people your own age.
  People who hasn't faced those unique problems at all tend to dismiss the notion that there could even be a problem with not looking our age... always so quick to point out the perks of looking decades younger or older than our actual age.

 Yes, there are perks that sometimes makes up for looking too old or too young for your actual age. But here is a list of why it isn't always all rainbows and sunshine....

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when it came to epically offensive comments. A Virgina Conservative flat out said that he saw nothing wrong with rape.

His name is Richard Black, and he's currently a state senator. When Virginia voted to allow spouses to be prosecuted for rape,Black opposed it and questioned whether marital rape is even possible, saying "when they're living together, sleeping in the same bed, she's in a nightie, and so forth."  

 Um, what? I suspect that he also thinks that there's nothing wrong with a husband being highly abusive towards his wife. Because that's what martial rape basically is.... it's a form of spousal abuse that leaves both physical and emotional marks on the body.

Black is trying to reinvent himself and earn a reputation as a fiscal conservative instead of a lightening rod on social issues. His comments on marital rape date back several years, but his record is chock-full of dangerous anti-woman politics. Here are a few highlights:

    Black is a retired military prosecutor who thinks military rape is "as predictable as human nature." He once told a newspaper, "Think of yourself at 25,... Wouldn't you love to have a group of 19-year-old girls under your control, day in, day out?"

 Ugh.... freakin' creepy as hell. And of course being such a masclinist he also conveniently ignores that Military rape affects men too. After all, rape is all about power and not sexual attraction... and of course the Military sometimes attracts bad seeds who like to feel powerful over others, even other men who they were supposed to be serving with, and protecting their backs.

    Black is opposed to emergency contraception, calling it "baby pesticide."    He has repeatedly introduced legislation requiring women younger than 18 to provide a notarized note from a parent before having an abortion. He even said that abortion is more evil than slavery.

His record is appalling. His views on rape are downright dangerous and inhumane, and we have to speak out. The National Republican Campaign Committee knows that women voters are critical to success. They have to hear that this is the wrong way to attract them.

 Besides... after seeing him say such things, I can't help but feel that he's a closet wanna-be serial rapist. Otherwise why would he rationalize such things away if he wasn't very willing to do horrific acts himself? I have to say, I don't feel comfortable with a guy like him being in power like that.

 So because of this, I'm asking you guys to sign this petition, which I already have signed myself:


 Today I ran into this story online, and needless to say that I was utterly horrified by what she went though growing up.

  I think this story needs to be shared by everyone, so that we can bring awareness to how harmful fat-shaming, etc can be.


The violent side of fat-shaming and body acceptance


  Occasionally the Men's rights activist groups will come up with some very good points.
Such as, The media objectifies and pressures men into looking and acting a certain way, just like they do with women. Men are expected to act and look like a impossible version of "Hyper-masculinity" the same way women are all expected to look like "Glam-Amazons."

 Amongst other things. And you have to admit they're right about that part.

  So I tend to see the Men's rights group as one full of possibilities and promise.... after all, why shouldn't both men and women have groups that try their best to represent the things that they're trying to fight for? Surely that could result in a world without gender inequality because both women and men were able to discuss the sort of issues they faced in a world that was so utterly obsessed with confirming to gender stereotypes.

 So I'll browse MRA forums occasionally, in order to see what kind of issues men face today... and even get their side of the story on some of the issues that some people mistakenly think is a women-only issue, like in the cases of sexual assault. (1 out of 6 men get sexually assaulted every year. The more you know!)

  There's plenty of sane, rational men who happens to be very good people frequenting those forums. But...Just like in the feminist groups, there can be a few nutcases who seem determined to completely ruin the name of the group they're in. Those nutcases seem to think that they're championing the group's cause, but all they are doing is running the group's reputation into the ground.

 And then those nutcases wonder why nobody refuses to take them seriously, while the reasonable, sane men are utterly embarrassed to be associated with that kind of people. It's a real tragedy, because those sane men actually had very good points that should had been truly considered by all.

 Here's what the nutcases say that ruins the MRA group's reputation, and thus why nobody will ever take them seriously:

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Here's a video that I think everyone should see:

 The basic gist is that nobody should ever be told to adhere to a very rigid idea of what makes up a "Real man" or even a "Real woman".

 Every human has the basic right to express themselves as they wish, period.


 Normally, Laws that has to do with rape tends to serve to bring some fairness and justice for all parties. It normally ensures that the said victim of sexual assault will get justice for what was done to her or him.

 So it might surprise you to hear that there are actually rape laws out there that are specifically designed to help the rapist get away with it, and specifically designed to victim-blame the hell out of innocent parties everywhere. And yes, a lot of those laws actually took place on USA soil instead of in some third-world country.

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 (shakes head) Oh boy... where to start? okay, let me just link to the story here:

  And then highlight some of the stuff from there:

“Unlike women,” Venker writes, “a man’s identity is inextricably linked to his paycheck.”

    VENKER: My advice is, as the years go on and you find that you want, if you do, to get married and settle down, to understand time is going to be your greatest enemy. Not your husband, not men, not the government, not your employers. It’s time, there’s just not enough time in the day to do everything. So if you learn to embrace that side of yourself that isn’t about work — in other words, the nurturing side, the motherhood, all of that — it’s okay to let your husband bring home that full-time income so you can have more of a balanced life. And we should really be thanking men for this, not saying they’re in our way or not doing enough.

Venker has previously argued that, as women become major breadwinners and stop acting like “traditional women,” they are becoming increasingly more annoying and less marriageable to men.

 Okay... let me just say this first, okay? I totally respect that she has a far more traditional viewpoint of gender roles. There's nothing wrong with believing in that sort of thing, even if I disagree with her. HOWEVER... I believe that she's wrong on so many levels when it comes to women in the workplace.

  Unlike what she believes, it's not that easy for women to go back to the way things were. In fact, it's downright impossible in today's world. Let me highlight why.

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  We all have moments where we feel let down by life, and may feel that it's too hard to continue anymore with what we're doing in life.

 In those moments, we need something that reminds us that there's always some good in life, and that even though it doesn't seem like it right now... it's totally worth it to see the end result.

  And what better than a list of videos that showcases some of life's most inspiration moments? So without much ado here is a list of videos.

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Thu Dec 05, 2013 at 01:13 PM PST

A Discussion about Internalization

by Aurora Moon

 Internalization is defined as Learning (of values or attitudes etc.) that is incorporated within yourself. This can be both positive and negative.

   However I would like to discuss the more negative aspects... such as self-hate that comes in the form of internalized misogyny amongst women who were basically raised with a negative view of her own gender, internalized racism or antisemitism amongst the Jewish population. That sort of thing.

  More specifically, What would you do if you suspected that somebody close to you were suffering from something like that?

   Because it's certainly not a easy topic to tackle... espeically if this person had been growing up his/her entire life hearing about all those negative stereotypes about his/her group of people. Sometimes when that happens a part of you can't help but start to believe the bigoted lies, espeically if you hear it being parroted as being "fact" so much all the time. Despite all the studies and statistics proving the total opposite of what those bigots kept on claiming were "facts".

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 Stuffed full of thanksgiving cheer, I decided to relax not in front of the TV watching football like most of my relatives did, but rather reading various blogs. I like reading blogs before I sleep, as it always gives me something to think about as I drift off to sleep. Most of the time the blogs I read are usually pleasant, funny, or even had a interesting story.

  But not this one. I read this mother's story about how somebody stole the pictures of her children, and started exploiting the picture to collect Likes/up-votes or whatever.

  This is actually a pet peeve of mine...

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