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Mon Mar 24, 2014 at 06:44 PM PDT

The Loss of my Friend.

by TriSec

I am mourning the loss of my oldest friend this weekend.

I've known him since we were both 13, a few years back in Middle School now.  We did it all - school trouble, yearbook staff, "The Dream", we were roommates for 8 years after graduation...he stood for me as my Best Man....he christened my son.

But somewhere along the way, he developed a fondness for alcohol.  Then pills.  Then married men.  (He's gay.)  And finally....child porn.

He's not dead.  Not yet, anyway.  But he is dead to me.

More below the crumpled orange tissue paper full of my tears.

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Wed Nov 27, 2013 at 07:45 AM PST

The most "American" holiday?

by TriSec

Well, it's Thanksgiving eve.  I'm home this week; cooking up a storm for everyone.  I was listening to Dvorak's "New World Symphony" when this idea struck, so let's all come along for the ride.

A year ago I was undergoing chemotherapy for Stage III colon cancer....since completed and in remission as we speak.  (6-month checkup on 12/4).  All seems to be going well, my wife is back to work, my son is happy in his new Scout Troop, and we seem to have much to be thankful for this year.

But why do I think this is more American than even Independence Day?

Think about it - it's all the good, bad, and ugly about America wrapped into one day, for better or worse.

On the plus side, there's food, family, faith, health, and all the things that we should be thankful for, or those that are able to be thankful for them.

On the negative side, there's the usual excesses we associate with holidays; overeating, too much drink, wasted food and resources....and yes, Black Friday, corporate greed, and worker exploitation.

Oh, and did I mention traffic, gas prices, TSA Security theater and travel delays?

Seems to me that Thanksgiving is indeed everything that is America wrapped into one long weekend of excess.

Have a good one, everybody!


Fri Oct 25, 2013 at 12:04 PM PDT

Thanks, Obama!

by TriSec

No, really.

ACA saved my life; no doubt about it.  So let the facts be presented to a candid world:

1. The ACA has touched off a huge hiring boom in the healthcare industry.

2. TriSec was hired back to a payor on a full-time, permanent basis with full benefits.

3. TriSec had insurance when his appendix attacked him last year, and revealed a cancerous tumour.

4. TriSec didn't die; he is now alive and well and in remission.

5. Mrs. TriSec was also just hired back to a payor on a full-time, permanent basis with full benefits.

6. Mrs. TriSec's plan is cheaper than regular TriSec's plan

7. Because the ACA protects pre-existing conditions, we can all switch without fear of losing coverage and actually save money.

T H A N K S, O B A M A!

The GOP can go to hell.


Wed Oct 23, 2013 at 08:31 AM PDT

ACA website vs. Turbo Tax

by TriSec

Hi all.

I'll be brief; a member of my blog just gave us all a blow-by-blow description of navigating her state's exchange while she went through the enrollment process.

She's gay, with a dependent, and in the fine state of North Carolina.

From start to finish:

Started: 10:32:05 AM +2 minutes: 10:30:05 AM
Finished: 11:08:19 AM

What's that, 38 minutes, 14 seconds?

As I just pointed out, I spent more time online last year with TurboTax doing my taxes, and I'm married with one dependent here in the fine Commonwealth of Massachusetts.

Another member also made this observation, and he works online support for a national website:

I have deep feeling that the "problems" are being waaaay overblown by the right wing echo chamber. I deal on a daily basis with people who don't know their backsides from their elbows when is comes to using a website. Now these self same folks are being asked to enroll in health insurance on website? I've got two word for you about the "glitches:" user error.
So there you have it.  Obama's fault, for sure!

Re-posted from Four Freedoms Blog with the kind permission of the author.

Many links back to supporting documents at the original source.

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Sun Aug 18, 2013 at 06:35 AM PDT

It's a TRAP!

by TriSec

Good Morning.

We're going to do a little traveling this morning. Our first stop is Cloud-Cuckoo land, or maybe North Carolina, Ohio, Texas, or many more states that are interested in superseding constitutional rights.

Imagine for a minute that we're traveling by plane. Over the past two decades or so, aviation has become increasingly safe and reliable, and even something like on-time percentage has improved. But suppose that a powerful lobby group decided that flying was "against the laws of God!!" and went on an all-out effort to kill the industry. Oh, they could legislate it out of existence in one fell swoop, but suppose the Supreme Court had ruled in "Roe v. Ground" that aircraft and aviators are constitutionally protected?

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And the question remains, what do either of these things have to do with medical need?

Teen denied heart transplant because of low grades, trouble with law, family says

ATLANTA —A Georgia teen who was given just months to live has been denied a heart transplant because of low grades and trouble with the law, his family says.

Anthony Stokes, 15, has an enlarged heart, and will die if he does not receive a transplant, ABC News reported.

His family says doctors at Children's Healthcare of Atlanta at Egleston said won't put him on the transplant list because of his history of "noncompliance."

Stokes mother, Melencia Hamilton, said the doctors felt they had "no evidence that he would take his medicine or that he would go to his follow-ups."

The hospital said it follows "very specific criteria in determining eligibility for a transplant of any kind."


Thu Jul 25, 2013 at 09:50 AM PDT

A week at Scout Camp

by TriSec

Javi joined the troop in February of 2012.  We were gearing up for his first summer camp last year, but I got sick 3 weeks before the troop was ready to go and we had to back out. (See "Monday Night Cancer Club")  It was our goal this year to sell enough popcorn so he got to go for free.  We almost did, just missing by $30.  So when registration time came around, his name was on the list and we were ready to go!

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Sun Jun 09, 2013 at 07:19 AM PDT

A Cancer Blog - Redux

by TriSec

Cross-posted from Four Freedoms Blog.

And here is a link to the original story from slightly less than a year ago.

New blog below the orange tangle of IV lines.

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Sat Jun 01, 2013 at 05:47 AM PDT

Don't let the door hit you in the ass

by TriSec

I actually have mixed feelings about this.

Clearly, these boys need the benefits of the program, and I'd gladly welcome them in without their parents if I thought it could help.

Alas, as the saying goes in the business...."You can't reach every boy."


Given the BSA's recent decision, would you:

18%7 votes
35%13 votes
13%5 votes
32%12 votes

| 37 votes | Vote | Results

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Fri May 24, 2013 at 07:45 AM PDT

BSA change comes from the inside

by TriSec

From my friend, Dr. Holmes at Crew 56, Cambridge (MA)

Change in Boy Scouts coming from the inside

GRAPEVINE, Texas — The Boy Scouts of America’s lifting the ban on openly gay youth Thursday came 12 years after I received this charge:

"Change will only come from the inside."

It came from a silver-haired man who wore his Boy Scout uniform. Despite a lifetime of service to the Boy Scouts of America, he had been kicked out a few months prior for being gay. He exhorted me not to leave the organization.

He told me this as we stood in protest in Copley Square outside the BSA’s 2001 national annual meeting, held in Boston. I had in one hand a rainbow sign that said “Den Mothers for Inclusion,” and in the other hand my blue-uniformed 10-year-old Cub Scout son. I was heavy-hearted at the Supreme Court decision the year before allowing the BSA to ban gays from membership. We were an outdoors and craft-oriented family and my son loved Scout activities, which I had introduced him to. But how could I allow him to participate in an organization that would discriminate against our gay and lesbian family members and friends?

The silver-haired gentleman provided a startling new way to look at the issue. He said, “If people like you who support people like me do not stay to press change from within, it will never happen. The Supreme Court has assured that. If a boy who begins as a 7-year-old Cub Scout realizes he is a 13-year-old gay teen, who will he turn to if there are no sympathetic adults?”


Mon May 20, 2013 at 10:43 AM PDT

Liberal Confession - I handled guns!

by TriSec

This past weekend, I did something that might just horrify the more liberal among you.

We handled firearms, gave them to children, and shot a bunch of stuff.  It was a blast.

You see….I'm a Scout Leader and this was our annual shooting weekend.  

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