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  •  No (0+ / 0-)

    I'm not talking about "aggresive touching".  

    I'm talking about dominance touching, which is also common among dogs, for example putting their paws on top of another or trying to mount another in a non-sexual act.  A dog also considers it "soothing" when a dominant dog or person touches them in a dominant way, for example when you rub a dog's belly.

    The fact that Obama does this with people who disagree with him only underscores the dominance component to it.  That's what these teabagger's are reacting to, they're upset because a black man is asserting dominance over a white woman.  My problem is with anyone (usually a man) who makes a habit of dominance touching strangers (both men and women).  I'm not as bothered by the way Obama does it compared to Bush, but the behavior is still there.  It's standard alpha-male bullshit.

    "When I was an alien, cultures weren't opinions" ~ Kurt Cobain, Territorial Pissings

    by Subterranean on Tue Aug 16, 2011 at 07:28:16 PM PDT

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    •  I've watched women do it too. (0+ / 0-)

      It's arguable that it's dominance.

      It's also arguable that it's literally what it is, "contact." Our communication is substantially more non-verbal than we believe and many of our metaphors about it are... well, not really metaphorical. "I made contact." "We don't agree, but we are in touch with each other." Etc.

      It may be intentional--because people have studied this stuff and politicians (among others--lots of others!) have studied their conclusions and observations. Or it may be unconscious.

      On his part it looked smooth and natural. On her part, she didn't look at all put off, ever. So the complaint?

      Oh, that it's dominance behavior, used on those who disagree. Maybe. You'd have to watch and see if he uses it with people he agrees with, too.

      And even then, it'd be unclear, since it can mean multiple things.

      He touches the side of her shoulder, lightly. Not the top. Metaphorically, that's far less likely to be dominance... and far more likely to be contact as in being in touch.

      "Be just and good." John Adams to Thomas Jefferson

      by ogre on Wed Aug 17, 2011 at 03:56:00 PM PDT

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