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  •  This movie sparked interracial dialogue (10+ / 0-)

    at the viewing I went to. It was a mostly female audience (no surprise there) of black and white women. We all laughed, clapped and cheered throughout.

    The most interesting thing was that afterward, women of both races started talking to one another about their impressions, their histories and their stories. We all knew that it's naive to think these kinds of attitudes don't occur today. But it was great to hear it from all sides.

    I remembered the African-American woman who worked for us for 13 years as a baby-sitter for our (white) children. She had a wonderful relationship with our family, and I think she would agree that we paid her fairly, gave her paid vacations and a nice retirement bonus.

    Yet I remembered hearing her talk to her friends, telling stories about how they would never work for so-and-so again (another white woman of my acquaintance) because of the way she treated baby-sitters. I also remembered white friends who would complain about their baby-sitters for what seemed to me trivial issues ("She wouldn't even empty the dishwasher! I had to fire her!")

    I, too, was surprised by the vehemence of Melissa Harris-Perry's reaction. I doubt she read the book. I think the screenwriter tried so hard to get things into the movie that some parts were given short shrift, and thus seemed more stereotypical. But any movie that fosters interracial dialogue can't be all bad.

    •  Molly, (3+ / 0-)
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      Catte Nappe, nokkonwud, wishingwell

      Please, if the woman took care of your children full time, or over full time, she was your nanny; a babysitter is someone who takes care of your children on an occasional basis. Yes, I realize it is a picky point, but it is important, because it adds to the lack of respect child care professionals receive, because a babysitter is looked on as being a teenager with no training.

                            Just my two cents,
        as someone who worked as a professional for 12 years,

      Torture is ALWAYS wrong, no matter who is inflicting it on whom.

      by Chacounne on Wed Aug 17, 2011 at 11:54:06 AM PDT

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      •  She wasn't full time (2+ / 0-)
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        lgmcp, evergreen2

        More important, she would never call herself a "nanny." In her eyes, that's for Mary Poppins. And none of her AA friends would ever have called themselves a nanny, either.

        Getting paid and treated fairly was more important in my eyes than what she was called.

        •  Absolutely getting paid and being treated fairly (0+ / 0-)

          was more important than what she was called.

          If she wasn't full time, then perhaps she was more of a babysitter in what she was actually doing ?

          Interesting that she didn't call herself a nanny and none of her African American friends did either. I wonder if it was a difference in what they were doing, or a difference in passed down terminology ?

                          Thanks for the reply :)

          Torture is ALWAYS wrong, no matter who is inflicting it on whom.

          by Chacounne on Wed Aug 17, 2011 at 12:24:15 PM PDT

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