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  •  And here I am (2+ / 0-)
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    niemann, Oh Mary Oh

    using both those words in my comment title. Please be assured I have never laid a hand on my husband in violence :-)

    Score Card: Marriages won by me, 1. Marriages destroyed by me, 0.

    by Steven Payne on Wed Oct 19, 2011 at 01:53:01 PM PDT

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    •  Well, not quite! (3+ / 0-)
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      Steveningen, Julia Grey, Oh Mary Oh
      And here I am using both those words in my comment title.

      I didn't even notice that!

      But you really used "suppose" in the rather different sense of "I guess I should ..."

      And, although I take your use of "I should be shocked" in the spirit of resigned semi-humor, and don't want to read into it any more deeply than that ...  

      Just as a point of potential interest for those interested in abuse dynamics, there is actually a difference when the word "should" is directed outward, and when it is directed inward.  

      I always picture the word "should" as a big mallet with the word SHOULD inscribed on it.   Abusers and controllers aim outward and use the mallet to beat up on other people (as Santorum does in a clear example here) -- usually "for their own good."

      Abuse victims, on the other hand, also tend to use the mallet a lot -- but mostly on themselves.  I had one victim who had a good insight.  She said, "After a while you don't even need an external abuser because they've trained you to beat up on yourself with the mallet."

      The defense against the "SHOULD hammer" is the "SEZ WHO? shield".

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