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  •  my two cents (none)
    Thank you.  I appreciate the high-road post.

    It's nice to have well reasoned opinion based on clinical research and observations instead of someone's political diatribe disguised as "the truth."  Especially when it's part of the never-ending "gender wars" elements on both sides wish to continue until the end of time.

    Also, often neglected in this issue is that men are now experiencing the same self-destructive body-image behaviors.  I've got friends who've dropped massive amounts of weight through starvation diets.  Guys with hair plugs (thinking about it).  Guys with teeth whitening to the extreme (gee, I whiten, but not a lot).  Guys worrying that they're "too fat" and that their pants make their butts look big (Dockers!).  Guys spending hours in tanning beds to "look healthy."  Guys dying their hair.  Plucking their eyebrows (I do that) and ears (I do that, too) and noses (me again) to remove "unsightly," yet perfectly normal body hair.

    And I'm not talking gay-guy friends who've been like this since the friggin' 80's.  I'm talking straight guys, the last bastion of the uncritical body image.  Even my father, who'd find himself in Freeper-ville before he came here, got stuck in that trap and wore a toupe' from the time he was 50 until he retired.

    The fact is, it's everybody.  And the OCD link makes a lot more sense than some of the other crazy arguments that go around body-image beliefs.

    •  Men (none)
      I mistakenly left out the first sentence of Mr. Hartmann's piece:

      Years ago, a popular and wry sign to hang in one's office or on one's cubicle said, "A Clean Desk Is The Sign Of A Sick Mind." There is a very faint grain of truth to that, which highlights an opportunity for the media to use Terry Schaivo's tragic situation to actually save lives of girls and women (and a few men) in non-vegetative states.

      Yes, we all fall prey to some degree to the endless onslaught of advertising and image peddling, but the most vulnerable among us are destroyed.

      Let the great world spin for ever down the ringing grooves of change. - Tennyson

      by bumblebums on Thu Mar 31, 2005 at 02:36:35 PM PST

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    •  Stiffed (none)
      Have you read Susan Faludi's book Stiffed?  She does a wonderful analysis of how men are now getting scooped up into the commercialized body-consciousness (read: vody dissatisfaction) that has been imposed on women for generations.  All for the benefit of commerce, natch.  

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