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  •  in a situation of true equality perhaps (2+ / 0-)
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    wishingwell, i like bbq

    That would be easy enough. But the fact is in a large percentage of families, the wife has worked at home for many years and has no way to begin to make a liveable wage for herself. Should she starve (we arent just talking lifestyle here)  because she was a traditionalist who trusted her husband was also?

    I am not saying that this is the only divorce scenario, but it is a common injustice that needs to be acknowledged.

    •  Her husband was a traditionalist (4+ / 0-)

      in that scenario. He just changed his mind retroactively. This is a less-common divorce scenario, but it is still significant.

    •  Over 75% of women in the U.S. today work (1+ / 0-)
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      You're talking about a bygone era.

      •  so screw the 25percent that don't or can't work? (11+ / 0-)

        I was just divorced from a man who makes a ridiculously generous 6 figure salary. His annual bonus is six figures too. I left a lucrative career field in the 80s because he was in the military and we didn't want to be seperated so we took the adventures that we could and i did odd jobs as i was able in the various places we lived (3 different continents and a move generally every other year on average) When he retired, he took a number of positions that required uprooting our little family and readjusting again - when he'd finally "arrived" at his new corporate executive position (very secure and in a growth field) he decided he was bored with the same old wife and wanted essentially, a fancier, better socially connected partner to go do "fun" things with so I was out - in my mid fifties with fairly minimal job skills although I can do quite a bit with a computer - not enough to get a decent salary especially in this economy.

        There may not be many of us that are in the same boat I wound up in, and with the interent it is so much easier to keep working or get education no matter where in the world you wind up, but I think sweeping "reforms" that only serve to protect the pocketbooks of wealthy, wandering creeps are a big mistake. Some of us did marry for love and gave up a lot of our own careers for the good of the family and ther person we loved, trusted and agreed to support for life. Alimony makes sure that if the higer earner (or only earner) decides to bail to go find his "passion" elsewhere at middle age, he'd better be prepared to honor the rest of those silly little promises made earlier in life. And it should be the same whether the higher earner is the husband or wife who bails.
        But in long term partnerships where one has enjoyed the chance to pursue a timeconsuming career path while the partner keeps the home fires burning and tends to the family responsibilities...that alimony has beens earned.

        In my many years I have come to a conclusion that one useless man is a shame, two is a law firm, and three or more is a congress. John Adams

        by blue armadillo on Mon Nov 28, 2011 at 06:23:32 AM PST

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      •  3 divorce lawyers reviewed this bill & called BS (2+ / 0-)
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        Lonely Texan, i like bbq

        See Scott Maxwell's column on it:

        As one of them said, it clearly has an anti-woman agenda.

        The Seminole Democrat
        Waking up Florida one person at a time

        by SemDem on Mon Nov 28, 2011 at 06:54:09 AM PST

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      •  I wish I were (2+ / 0-)
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        SemDem, i like bbq

        but in some states and some occupations, things haven't changed all that much yet...there are many living in a bygone era still.

        And of those 75% that work, how many are families where there is still a breadwinner and then a wife who makes 15,000 to 22,000 a year just to add to the family purse before the kids come.

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