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    AllisonInSeattle, cany, glorificus

    Finding out what the different options are NOW will help save you anxiety and confusion as the situation unfolds.

    On another note, I would suggest that you get your proverbial ducks in a row for those 'final expenses' as well.

    I hope that you don't read this and think that I am a cold person, I have had to do this twice already and have been ready for the third for some time now.

    Two of my siblings have passed away in the last three years, and one aspect that I found that one can prepare for is final disposition.

    I was able pre-arrange with Cremation Societies in 2 different states, so that when the siblings DID pass away, everything was taken care of very efficiently, and we were not left in position of having to make certain decisions at an incredibly stressful time.

    Cremation Societies have the added advantage of being very affordable, which is also a relief.

    If cremation is a suitable option for you, find a society near you.

    Take a deep breath: you can handle this. I'll be thinking about you. :o)

    "No one earns $100 million. You steal $100 million." --Fran Lebowitz

    by SNFinVA on Sun Dec 18, 2011 at 01:24:33 PM PST

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    •  Second the advice about making preparations (3+ / 0-)
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      SNFinVA, cany, glorificus

      for after your mother passes away. Hospice is on the list first, I'm sure once they're involved some of your emotions, time, and mind will free up.

      Cremation Societies are a great option. Also, what funeral home or church/chapel, if you intend to have a service. There may be no need for one, or you may very much want one. My one aunt mentioned this to my siblings and I when my mom was getting close... and we were just dumbfounded that it hadn't occurred to us. We were able to make arrangements while she was still alive in her case a funeral home was needed due to her wishes. After she died, we went back in... to see a family in the exact spot we would have been in if my aunt hadn't spoken up... making arrangements while they were grieving a recent loss. Close call for us.

      This health care system is a moral atrocity. Dr. Ralphdog

      by AllisonInSeattle on Sun Dec 18, 2011 at 07:08:48 PM PST

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