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  •  Beautiful. What a totally wonderful tribute to (5+ / 0-)

    your Mother, and your Father, and your entire family.

    I worked at Bell Labs for a year as an intern, and I was incredibly grateful whenever I was fortunate enough to get invited to one of those "work dinner parties" you described.  I was a pretty lonely, just out-of-college graduate whose own family had just ended in divorce. (I frankly took the internship since I had no home left to go home to right after school, and I was too confused and sad to make any long term decisions for my own life.)  

    Those times I got to go to a home, for a home cooked meal, and got to see a happy family gave me hope.  They quite probably helped keep me from sinking into a depression -- I was only 19 when I graduated, living in a rented, extra bedroom without family or friends.

    I don't remember a 9 bedroom, victorian home filled with 14 children, but your tribute brought tears to my eyes remembering that time and the kindness that so many women and families in that area seemed to regularly extend as part of that unique and interesting corporate community during regular offers to dinner parties. Almost every week, for at least one night, I got to go to one. :)

    I thought you might like to know and hear, that in addition to the big waves of goodness and graciousness that flowed over all of you in your family from your Mother ... that well, I'm also pretty darn certain that your Mother's graciousness and kindness rippled out even further and touched even more people in ways that might actually only be known in the hearts and memories of people who you might think are strangers, now, but who were nonetheless touched forever in a loving and positive way.  :)

    It continuuously amazes me how even the smallest acts of humanity, decency and kindness seem to continue on -- almost as if there is a Law for the Conservation of Love in this universe, as well as for mass and energy.

    Thank you for sharing this wonderful tribute about your Mother. A life wonderfully spent and fully shared. I am so sorry for your loss, but also so pleased for you that you understand, value, and take forward with you what you so obviously gained from your wonderful Mother.  

    Just thought you might also like to hear about how she, and YOU, and all your family may have impacted others like me during the kind of charming dinner parties you described in this tribute.  My deepest sympathies to you and your family.

    Plutocracy (noun) Greek ploutokratia, from ploutos wealth; 1) government by the wealthy; 2) 21st c. U.S.A.; 3) 22nd c. The World

    by bkamr on Sun Jan 01, 2012 at 03:03:46 PM PST

    •  Ok well that brought tears to my eyes. (4+ / 0-)
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      We used to have kids live with us every summer who were going through the summer science program at the Labs.  There would be a big picnic with all the families at the end of the summer.   Also remember the year one of us kids talked mom into taking in an exchange student. We ended up with a boy from the Philippines who was used to being waited on hand and foot by his mother. My mother was so bewildered by his attitude!  In our house kids worked!

      •  Your sharing brought tears of connection and (2+ / 0-)
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        gratitude to mine. :)  I'm so glad you reached out to write this diary. You gave me a chance to say thank you to really wonderful people in this world like you and your Mom. Thank you, and again, my deepest sympathies.

        Plutocracy (noun) Greek ploutokratia, from ploutos wealth; 1) government by the wealthy; 2) 21st c. U.S.A.; 3) 22nd c. The World

        by bkamr on Sun Jan 01, 2012 at 04:17:59 PM PST

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