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    commonmass, fearisthemindkiller

    Context really matters. The friend I mentioned above would step in front of a bus for me. Oh, he'd probably do it for anyone, but I KNOW he'd do damn near anything he could if I needed help. I also know that the fact that I am around in casual contexts where he's using 'she' in a critical tense is an indicator that he's not censoring.

    Slur words used erotically, BDSM - when is it safe, sane, consensual, and when is it not, and how can triggers send it from one side of that line to another - hugely complicated stuff indeed. Language is messy stuff.

    But yeah - I'm way more forgiving of others' unconscious assumptions. (I tend to kick myself repeatedly and berate myself mercilessly when I'm confronted by or see my own. <sigh>) There's a vast difference between language used among insiders in a subculture and degrading jokes about women's bodies. Oddly enough, I know no straight men who'd dream of getting away with the latter, but hear it from gay men way too often. Reclaiming their manliness by attacking women's womanliness just makes them look like idiots. There's gotta be a better way.

    "I like to go into Marshall Field's in Chicago just to see all the things there are in the world that I do not want." M. Madeleva, C.S.C.

    by paxpdx on Sat Feb 11, 2012 at 06:26:52 PM PST

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