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  •  {{{{Tree Climbers}}}} (12+ / 0-)

    A warm hug for everyone here.  

    A bit of my story ... I knew from a very early age that my parents did not love me.  A few times I thought I was wrong, mistaken.  I remember thinking with a great rush of relief and joy - I've been wrong all the time, they really do love me!!! - only to experience even deeper betrayal.

    I do not know how I survived.  Somehow I didn't take them not loving me as meaning that there was something wrong with me.  But it wasn't until I was a parent myself and saw how trusting and vulnerable a little child is and knew that I would do anything to protect my child - only then could I really see that my parents for what they were.  

    I am now in a very good place.  The love of my life adores me, and I adore him, and we deeply love our daughter, who loves us.  I am blessed with many dear friends.  The little girl who was never hugged now gives and receives hugs freely.  

    But still, sometimes the hurt asserts itself.  Like some of you, I hesitate to talk about it.  I don't want to be labeled as damaged.  What a blessing it is to find a group of people who are also traveling on a journey toward finding peace.  

    So dear ones, this post is already longer than I ever intended.  But before I wrap up, know this - you are not alone.  I can hold your hand, hear you, and give a hug.

    Thank you, dear occupant for sharing more of your story.  Thank you Tree Climbers for being here.  {{{{all the kids in the tree}}}}

    •  joy, our house is a safe house. (10+ / 0-)

      there are many very sensitive and understanding people here.
      we all share what we can when we can and there is no schedule.

      i am a parent too and i have no doubt your experience has made you a very loving parent. all i ever knew at home was clenched teeth anger from my father. my daughter is 11, i think i slightly raised my voice to her once.

      i'm very happy for you that you have a family, it's all i ever wanted too. :-)
      thank you for feeling brave enough and safe enough to share, it means a lot to us all.

      There is a crime here that goes beyond denunciation. There is a sorrow here that weeping cannot symbolize. There is a failure here that topples all our success. Grapes of Wrath, John Steinbeck

      by dear occupant on Sun Feb 26, 2012 at 03:20:56 PM PST

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