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  •  excellent diary, vl! (7+ / 0-)

    for smoking, other habits and life in general.

    i'm not aware of too many things-i know what i know, if you know what i mean-e.b.

    by shesaid on Mon Feb 27, 2012 at 07:14:34 PM PST

    •  Thank you so much, shesaid (7+ / 0-)

      I find there's a lot of overlap between dealing with addictions and dealing with life in general. The addiction part just amplifies things a bit. :-)

      How are you doing this evening?

      "When did it fall apart? Sometime in the '80s / When the great and the good gave way to the greedy and the mean." - Billy Bragg

      by Vacationland on Mon Feb 27, 2012 at 07:37:14 PM PST

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      •  about to eat some pf chang (7+ / 0-)

        and watch something w/ my son...house or grimm. he'll choose.

        been thinking about how my anger at family (and how i express it-which is poorly) is a habit. my kid says i get too emotional and in turn become irrational..sounds like an addiction of sorts because it's been my m.o. for so much of my life.

        i'll be back later (although it will likely be after you and other east-coasters have gone to bed...

        i'm not aware of too many things-i know what i know, if you know what i mean-e.b.

        by shesaid on Mon Feb 27, 2012 at 07:44:17 PM PST

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        •  I may miss you later... (6+ / 0-)

          ...'cause I am starting to hit the wall here, but I'll check in tomorrow, and you can hang out here anytime you like. There are West Coast folks and night owls on here sometimes.

          Learning how to express anger is a tough one for recent quitters. Many of us never developed proper coping skills and not having access to the usual ways of venting steam, we often lash out or have extreme mood swings. The emotion itself isn't an addiction, it's just the maladaptive behavior we learn when we can't self-soothe in our usual ways (by smoking, for example). When I was a smoker, I wasn't less angry at things, I just didn't express it as much; I'd go smoke and silently seethe about things. That's not really healthy, it's just the best coping method I knew. I had been a smoker since I was in my late teens; I didn't ever learn "grown-up" coping skills. I had to learn those in my 40s! :-)

          It's nearly impossible to change overnight how you react to the world; it takes time, and a little patience (with yourself, too) and trial and error. You'll get there.

          "When did it fall apart? Sometime in the '80s / When the great and the good gave way to the greedy and the mean." - Billy Bragg

          by Vacationland on Mon Feb 27, 2012 at 08:12:52 PM PST

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