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  •  I want to thank you for sharing this. (4+ / 0-)

    And you are right:  there are some differences in being adopted versus being a biological child.  But these differences, IMHO, are only amplified if we let them be.  I understand that adopted children view this from different perspectives.  For example:  I am completely comfortable with being an adopted child, whereas my brother (also adopted) has not been so at ease.  Our experiences are our own.  I never felt a sense of rejection or abandonment; my brother had issues with this.  Therefore, I will never judge how an adopted child reacts to the situation.  Each one is unique.  My hope is that at some point there is an acceptance of oneself and one's circumstances.   Ultimately, we are who we are because of our choices in life, not necessarily our bloodline.

    What I do judge, however, is the ignorant comments of those who have been neither an adoptive parent nor an adoptee.  IMHO, if you have not been on either side, you need to STFU because you have no basis on which to reach an opinion.  This is a very personal issue for both adoptive parents and children.  I, for one, will go to my grave defending the choices of both my biological mother and my adoptive mother.  I am grateful to the former for giving me life, and I am grateful to the latter for having given me the opportunity to have a life.  Some may not understand the distinction.  So much the loss for them.

    As you have so beautifully stated, I, too, wish all parents and children the best.

    "Only when the last tree has died, the last river has been poisoned, and the last fish has been caught will we realize we cannot eat money." --Cree proverb

    by TigerMom on Thu Apr 12, 2012 at 05:22:38 PM PDT

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