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  •  Natural Aversion (6+ / 4-)

    Part of the problem begins with the word "homophobe," which, being based on the word "phobia," suggests fear.  But fear is not the emotion you experienced.  Rather, you felt revulsion.  And this was probably nature's way of directing you away from having sex with men, so that you will have sex with women, which is, from an evolutionary point of view, more likely to be reproductively successful.

    Some would claim that you are trying to repress your own homosexual tendencies.  In some sense, this is true.  If you had absolutely no tendency to have sex with a man, the feeling of revulsion would be unnecessary.  In other words, you would feel no revulsion at seeing a man kiss a tree, although it might strike you as pretty damn strange.  And that is because you have no tendency to have sex with a tree.  Nature does not need to steer you away from making love to an oak.

    The one thing in this world that looks most like a female is a male.  A tree does not look like a female, and so a male is not likely to want to have sex with it. So, nature did not need to take steps to prevent such activity.  No one ever looked at a tree and thought he saw a woman.  But everyone has had the experience of looking at a man and thinking it was a woman.  So, nature produces in most men a feeling a revulsion to counter this tendency to have sex with another man.

    Needless to say, this mechanism does not always work properly, and thus we have homosexuality.

    •  Now there is an interesting answer. (2+ / 0-)
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      Cinnamon, Wee Mama

      Can't say I had ever thought about it quite like that.

      I'm not sure about your last sentence though.

      I hope that the quality of debate will improve,
      but I fear we will remain Democrats.

      by twigg on Sat Apr 14, 2012 at 05:39:50 AM PDT

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    •  HR for this (5+ / 0-)
      So, nature produces in most men a feeling a revulsion to counter this tendency to have sex with another man.

      Needless to say, this mechanism does not always work properly, and thus we have homosexuality.

      That's a bigoted judgement call, parsed in the language of a nature documentary.

      “Five exclamation marks, the sure sign of an insane mind.” ― Terry Pratchett, Reaper Man Political Compass: -8.50, -6.46

      by Cinnamon on Sat Apr 14, 2012 at 05:53:25 AM PDT

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    •  Sorry. Bullshit. (12+ / 0-)

      Do you really think dogs, for instance, feel revulsion when they see two male dogs humping?

      No.  

      Your fear, or "revulsion" as you put it, is a product of the culture in which you were raised.  

      Everyone has already said "watch out being labeled a closeted homosexual," but I must say that reading your post makes me wonder if you might be more gay than you are willing to admit.

      It's okay if you are.  No one knows the truth but you.

      I am a gay male.  When I see two women kissing I don't feel anything - revulsion, attraction, amusement, nothing.  It just does nothing to or for me.  If it made me feel physically ill to see two women kissing - or a woman and a man - I would know for sure that I have some problem beyond my own perceptions.

      Yes, you are a homophobe.  But like being an alcoholic, the first step is to admit it.  I think you need a few gay friends to demystify the whole thing for you.  Ever thought about going to a gay bar for a beer?  Maybe you should check it out and then ask yourself honestly if you are feeling "revulsion" - or its opposite.

      Still enjoying my stimulus package.

      by Kevvboy on Sat Apr 14, 2012 at 05:56:25 AM PDT

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