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  •  Beautifully written (2+ / 0-)
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    julimyers, kishik

    It's interesting, my dear friend expressed similar thoughts regarding phalloplasty after his transition a few years ago.  In all honesty, I don't know what he decided.  It doesn't matter.

    He has a good job, a hot body, and a gorgeous wife.  Best of all, though, he is completely at home in his skin.  When we met at band camp in 1982, it took me a couple of days to be sure "Lee" was a biological girl.  Either way, we became instant BFFs and remain so to this day.

    When he told me he was transitioning, my only reaction was, "Ahhhh, now I get it!  DUH!  Of course Lee's a dude; Lee's always been a dude!"  

    It sounds like we're all about the same age (44 here) and it's easy to say "duh" now, but back in the pre-Internet day, people like Phil Donahue and Larry King (late night radio) were our only window to so much of the world.  

    The funniest thing is, the nuns didn't care how gender-vague Lee was because he was a hell of a musician and the best trumpet soloist the school's ever seen.  They were more likely to pick on me for saying I wanted to go to college and get married but not have kids.  Which is exactly what happened.

    I wish you all the best in your journey :)

    "as long as there last name is not obozo, i am voting for them." -- some wingnut blogger

    by SteelerGrrl on Mon Jun 04, 2012 at 03:02:16 PM PDT

    •  So, you're "SteelerGrrl"? (2+ / 0-)
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      SteelerGrrl, kishik

      Are you from Pittsburgh?  (We are from Pennsylvania but moved to Arizona last July.)

      What a lucky man Lee is to have a friend like you.  Not many of us are fortunate to have people who knew us pre-transition who stay in our lives afterwards.  And I'm so happy for him to have ended up with the hot body and the gorgeous wife :-))

      Thank you for your good wishes.  As much fun as I am having writing, I am having more fun getting to talk to so many different people.  

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        Stripe, kishik

        I'm from East Central PA but am a lifelong Steeler fan.  It's been years since I lived there; we've been in NC since '04.

        Lee's transition was so not a big deal to me.  It made perfect sense.  Maybe it's because we were friends for such a long time before, but I never saw him as transitioning so much as evolving.  

        It never occurred to me that anything would change about our friendship, and it hasn't.  After 30 years, BFFdom goes way beyond gender anyway!

        "as long as there last name is not obozo, i am voting for them." -- some wingnut blogger

        by SteelerGrrl on Mon Jun 04, 2012 at 04:32:59 PM PDT

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