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  •  It has to be something in his background (3+ / 0-)

    His response seems to defy everything. Are the men who are trying to push him his primary support network? Does he only listen to "news sources" that slant extremist? How long has he been a Republican?

    To be able to respond to cognitive dissonance related to the livelihood of his wife and child this way, he must have some sort of deep attachment to the (R) or an overwhelming social influence - that is, this is somehow very personally wrapped up in his self-identity.

    Supporter of philosophical constitutionalism, republicanism, and democratism. -3.5, -4.87 All about the rule of law and moderate regulation + Civility first + Constructive comments + Remember the cooperative principle

    by LimitedGovernment on Tue Jun 05, 2012 at 05:43:13 PM PDT

    •  He's always been R (9+ / 0-)

      ...and a narcissist.  But even narcissists care about what happens to them.  And if my mother loses her insurance and livelihood this is clearly not in his best interest.

      He believes strongly in a just-world theory.  Everyone gets what they deserve, and if they're poor, it's because they want to be poor.

      Except now they're not doing well, so I guess they deserve it?  But I promise you that he wouldn't say that.  It's because of Obama they're not doing well, not Walker and the Republicans.

      •  Sounds like my dad (5+ / 0-)

        That sort of worldview is all about the conflict of interest - it serves his self-impression and general interests to believe that other people are the problem.

        I mean, he believed that my mother was responsible for me making a call to arrest him when he was going nuts, and that my mother and the courts were the problem when he had to have supervised visitation.

        Naturally, he also blames clients, government, and non-Christians for his business failures, and now that he's struck well-off using money that should've gone to my mother for child support, he attributes it to his hard work and management ability - though his business gets residual income from the success of his partners.



        Your father probably has made the (R) and "evil/unfair world against me, just/fair world favoring me" perceptions so central to his identity that it would be very difficult and embarrassing for him to change his position. As weird as it may sound, not making his beliefs an issue of direct contention might be the best way to help him become less nuts in his voting patterns.

        My experience has been that only when someone like him directly has to deal with the consequences of views and isn't cornered with facts by others will that person move away from his/her deeply held beliefs.

        It's this kind of person who sees every factual argument as an attack on who they are as a person, and equate being incorrect with being a bad person. Their primary motivations are to feel good and to feel justified/moral - facts aside.

        Supporter of philosophical constitutionalism, republicanism, and democratism. -3.5, -4.87 All about the rule of law and moderate regulation + Civility first + Constructive comments + Remember the cooperative principle

        by LimitedGovernment on Tue Jun 05, 2012 at 06:08:50 PM PDT

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