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  •  "Passive-agressive" is a way for bullies (3+ / 0-)

    and their enablers to deprecate the emotions of non-bullies.

    If "Louis" went out and beat the crap out of some LGBT kids, held them down and cut their hair etc, he'd be a really cool dude: presidential material; not a dreaded "passive-aggressive".

    •  Bullies aren't that sophisticated (0+ / 0-)

      Besides, passive-aggressive behavior is a real thing. It's a specific type of personality disorder. There is some debate about exactly where it should fit in the scheme of such things, some think it deserves an entry of it's own, while others think it is a subtype of other disorders. But all it really means is that someone is expressing aggression in a passive way, for instance, by NOT doing something. It isn't simply a means for bullies and their enablers to deprecate the emotions of others, it is an unhealthy and maladaptive way of resolving interpersonal conflicts. Assertive behaviors are much more likely to help, like saying "When you do X, I feel Y" instead of sulking and refusing to communicate. If the boy in the comic had said "When you don't invite me to movies, I feel hurt," then the others could have cleared up the issue right away and everyone would have had fun.

      •  It's "real" according to the politicized (0+ / 0-)

        pseudoscientists of the DSM who used to consider being gay a mental illness, who still consider crossdressing a mental illness, and who are defining new mental illnesses for women whose husbands think they don't want sex often enough.

        Mostly these quacks and charlatans just shill for the drug companies.

        •  See also (0+ / 0-)

          this Huffpost article.

          DSM-V is a complete train wreck and is exposing the fact that the process is all about profits, not science.

        •  Yes, I've heard Scientologists make that complaint (0+ / 0-)

          But then, L. Ron Hubbard had his reasons to be upset with psychologists: they kept telling him he was crazy.

          I'll forgive you for calling my dad, who has been in the mental health profession for forty years, a "quack and charlatan." But considering that there are no drug treatments for passive aggressive personality, I'm not sure of the relevance of your complaint. Nobody is making money of diagnosing people as being passive aggressive.

          It sounds like you might have personal issues with this particular diagnosis, so I'm just going to back away slowly now. You have yourself a nice day.

          •  I have problems with "medical" pseudoscience (0+ / 0-)

            Which has a long history of horrific human rights abuses, going back to the eugenics movement. I haven't been personally dinged by this one but as a trans woman I have common cause with all people who are, or historically have been, marginalized by the psych quacks.

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