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  •  Is this about the diary you wrote this afternoon? (5+ / 0-)

    If it is, you are very young, and are trying to find your way in this crazy world.  Heck, many of us oldies are still trying to find our way.  No one is really against you here, but there are a lot of people really hurting out there.  I think if you continue reading diaries about some of the hurt, you will come to understand how people feel.  Don't hate yourself.  We all have bad times, and the sun will come up tomorrow.

    This is a work in progress.

    by broths on Mon Jun 18, 2012 at 06:26:41 PM PDT

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    •  No, not at all. (3+ / 0-)
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      mapamp, Roxine, ladybug53

      I hate myself for plenty of other reasons.

      #Equal Love Equal Rights

      by The Nephew on Mon Jun 18, 2012 at 06:31:22 PM PDT

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      •  Hey - change the language - words mean something (6+ / 0-)

        you don't hate yourself.  You hate what happened to you.

        Anyway, you can't hate yourself.  Because see, I like you - and I don't like people who hate themselves - hate the circumstance, don't hate the kid...

        ~Whataya want from me~  are you singing?  you can't hate yourself when you're singing smile

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        by Roxine on Mon Jun 18, 2012 at 06:36:30 PM PDT

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        •  Yes, maybe he does (1+ / 0-)
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          His feelings are his feelings, not yours. I'm sure your words are well intentioned. But they're dismissive. If he says he hates himself, he's not wrong. (And I apologize Newphew for writing as if you're not in the room.) There are probably a thousand reasons he shouldn't hate himself. If he does, telling him he doesn't isnt a fix.

          •  yes (1+ / 0-)
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            Kane in CA

            I think one of the worst things we can do to one another is to tell someone that they aren't feeling what they are--to invalidate their reality.

            As someone with an intimate knowledge of self-loathing, I  can say that someone saying "no, you don't" when I have expressed my feelings in that regard has never helped me get past the pain.

            Friends who hold my hand and say "I'm sorry you feel that way--I love you," have helped me find my way out of the dark place, though.

            I think that's all we can really do for our friends--acknowledge their feelings, and support them on the journey back.

            There is no snooze button on a cat who wants breakfast.

            by puzzled on Tue Jun 19, 2012 at 09:03:19 AM PDT

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