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  •  I understand what you are saying, but (1+ / 0-)
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    Eric Nelson

    most of today's "racism" as I witnessed it, is subtle and the "hatred" mostly not openly and directly thrown in your face. (and when it is, of course this is something that can and must be unlearned and contained through legislation - and I think it can be. I know in this country today this is an ongoing fight as it is pretty much everywhere in the world. This thing seems to always creep up and lurk again and again, if you don't pay attention to it).

    I just don't see how many people can overcome an almost instinctive feeling of "not trusting" or "not understanding" the other ethnic or racially different group of people. And this "unease" of "not understanding" leads to fear and with that often to a mechanism, where people unconsciously put down those they "don't understand".

    I can't speak for myself, but I can assure you that my son most probably wouldn't be able to support this statement:

    Belonging does not demand that you give up ones own individual identity or the willingness to learn new ways to communicate imo.
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    So I don't believe that one has to lose/unlearn their culture, family, or ones identity in order to accept another person as they are.
    In his experience it is a constant, unspoken, but clear expectation to a multiracial person to "take sides", when they try to egg-dance in today's society. And it can make a pesron sick. May be we had unusual experiences. And for a multiracial person the problem is that their own individual identity is not a given, natural thing, but mostly a missing one that has to be discovered. So often there is no clear individual identity to begin. And what you don't have you can not give up.
    •  Your son has maybe already learned through.. (2+ / 0-)
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      mimi, Ahianne

      ..love more than are giving yourself credit for.

      "hatred" mostly not openly and directly thrown in your face. (and when it is, of course this is something that can and must be unlearned and contained through legislation
      It sounds like your son has a head start. Legislation may be the solution on a macro scale but learning from a parent is way more powerful, starting right at home..
      In his experience it is a constant, unspoken, but clear expectation to a multiracial person to "take sides", when they try to egg-dance in today's society.
      ..with a parent who has clearly identified that peer pressure to "take sides" is his choice in the end, and I'll bet that he senses from your own example that the choices remain his to make.

      It sounds like he has a very strong foundation from his mom imo

      P.S. I'm no expert on this, so this really is just my limited opinion

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