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  •  I have access to mild sedation such as (6+ / 0-)

    benadril or activan but I can't do it because if one eye isn't on that little one,,he will run away.  He runs from school, home, church,....I have to wath him as though he is bout to run.

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    by Vetwife on Sat Jun 30, 2012 at 01:48:46 PM PDT

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    •  "Ice-Diving" (1+ / 0-)
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      First of all, this sounds like a tremendously stressful and frightening time for all of you and that you're doing as well as anyone could at dealing with the things which need to be dealt with - gentle, supportive e-hugs are very much offered!

      On the practical front, whilst I'm all for using pharmaceuticals where appropriate, your concerns about anti-anxiolitics sound valid, given the challenges said little one presents. Thankfully, there are some other options which won't cloud your judgement or risk you falling asleep, etc. Unless you have a heart/circulatory condition, the one which sounds most appropriate right now is nicknamed 'ice-diving' - basically, if you have a freezer with some ice (or failing that, some frozen peas or whatever) in it, get some out, put it in a largeish bowl, a small sink or something similar and add a reasonable amount of cold water to it. After that, you take a breath and hold it whilst placing your face into the cold water (if the bowl's too small to fit your whole face into, you're particularly aiming to immerse the middle section - lips to eyebrows, IIRC) and hold it there for a little bit. This will trigger something called the 'dive reflex' which leads to the Bradycardic Response, which quickly slows your heart down, draws blood back into core areas and suchlike, which acts as a serious short-circuit for 'hot' emotions (fear, anxiety, anger, etc.) You can repeat the ice-diving as needed, though it's usually very fast-acting and lasts a little while. It's not a whole bunch of fun, but it's very effective.

      Once you're back down closer to baseline with anxiety/fear, it may help to try other quick techniques to remain in that region if you feel the emotions spiking again, but haven't got to a point where ice-diving is needed. Stuff like tensing some muscles (ones in the face and hands are usually good) for a couple of seconds, then slowly, progressively relaxing the muscles one-by-one then focusing on the feeling of looseness once you're done. Alternatively, there are a whole bunch of other techniques that are more commonly known, like making yourself a cup of something warm (decaf tea, hot-chocolate, etc.), putting on soothing music, doing breathing exercises etc., some of which you may already know work for you.

      Again, so sorry about the nasty, nasty situation you find yourself in and very well done on getting everyone, yourself included, through it as well as possible thus far.

    •  Gotcha 'about the runner. :( (1+ / 0-)
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      I'm glad you do have something in the house for your nerves.

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