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  •  I too grew up in such a family (11+ / 0-)

    Hate speech, slurs, derogatory language of any kind is unthinkable in my family. Even "Rethugs", which I see here all the time, is going much, much too far. The way we were raised is, "if you have to use that kind of language, you don't have a good argument for your own cause".

    I can remember being very, very young - maybe three? not older - and being reprimanded for pointing out, while inside the family car, that a man on the street had black skin. Nothing derogatory, merely that he had black skin, something I didn't see every day at that early point in my life. I think my mother may have been trying to raise us as "I don't see color", possibly thinking that would ensure that her kids didn't grow up to be racists. (It may have come down in teachings in her maternal family line, too, the side of the family with the crypto-Jews.)

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    by Kitsap River on Wed Jul 04, 2012 at 02:17:12 PM PDT

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    •  My whole town (7+ / 0-)

      We ate at the "Chink's" Hispanics lived in "Tortilla Flats", there were Dagos,  Wops, and  Bohunks. We had no blacks so the N word wasn't heard much no Jews either, but "Spics" was common and just the way the word "Indian" was said turned it into a slur.

      I grew up that way, I was a language I was immersed in and knew intimately until I was old enough to realize how wrong it was. If there is any ray of sunshine in this, I don't hear language like that any more, it's gone. There may be small pockets of it, but it is no longer the norm.

      Homophobic slurs were common up to about 5 years ago and I don't hear them either. We have many openly gay, lesbian, and trans people and our town is fine with it all. No biggie for the most part. No one can say that everyone is down with being decent an any community, but we are doing much better than I expected.

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      by high uintas on Wed Jul 04, 2012 at 04:31:33 PM PDT

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