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  •  Nobody has the right (12+ / 0-)

    To force you out of the closet.  Coming out has its own share of dangers:  losing your job, losing friends and family, getting beaten or raped, being denied certain civil rights, etc.  The person who is closeted has the right to its protection so long as he or she doesn't harm someone intentionally by doing so.

    And by "intentional harm," I mean attacking other lesbians/gays/bis/transgender folk while under cover, deliberately making a partner a "beard," that sort of thing.

    I'm not out to very many people.  Even though Seattle is a pretty progressive place, I hesitate to reveal to co-workers that I'm bisexual.  The fact that I have a boyfriend is cover enough, as far as that goes; yet at the same, I don't hide the fact that I'm also attracted to women.  It feels like I'm walking a tightrope, but keeping this secret is a choice I made.  Now the boyfriend knows I'm bi.  So do my friends.  With others, it's going to be on a strictly "need to know" basis, because the last thing I want to is to find myself the workplace pariah or joke.

    I wish this was simple.  I wish people didn't make it so hard simply to be, without hanging half a dozen fucking rules around it all.  But I hope you can find the way that works for you with the minimum amount of stress and bullshit.


    Hang in there.

    Hope is a good thing--maybe the best of things--and no good thing ever dies.

    by Gemina13 on Fri Jul 06, 2012 at 08:33:13 PM PDT

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