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  •  Wow, you gave me a way to think about something (4+ / 0-)
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    I was just puzzling over!

    Nothing, NOTHING, feels "right" anymore.  Even being with one of my closest, supportive friends last week still wasn't exactly what I needed; at times things she said hurt, although they were not hurtful or meant to be hurtful. And I'm so EXHAUSTED by life, really exhausted.

    That quote helps me relax a little and think about this "grief process rebuilding" as happening at a very minute level rather than huge grief tsunamis.  That gives me some perspective on why this feels so huge to me.

    Thank you SO MUCH!

    As of 02/22/2012 in Washington State pharmacists can exercise their "religious freedom" by denying women access to Plan B because the judge thinks there aren't any bigots in this state.

    by FlamingoGrrl on Tue Aug 14, 2012 at 09:10:22 AM PDT

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    •  Be kind to yourself (0+ / 0-)

      I am moved by your declaration that "nothing ... feels 'right' anymore" and by your feeling "so EXHAUSTED by life." These experiences -- it seems to me -- are examples of how carrying the pain of loss affects us (our loss makes the world seem like a strange place, and our pain exhausts us). I do hope it is helpful for you to view the process of grief unfolding "at a very minute level" and as a "huge" experience, for although time alone does not necessarily heal us, it takes time for us to heal. Indeed, if you can "relax a little" and be patient (realizing that your immense feelings and your disorientation to your very own world are truly normal aspects of this seemingly maddening process) -- as well as being very kind to yourself -- then you can be aware not only of the pain but also of the times when you are coping with the pain, not only of the disorientation but also of the times when you have a moment of clarity about this new world without your loved one.

      •  Your words have a distinct gentleness to them and (0+ / 0-)

        I am so appreciative of your response.   Yes, I have the concept and it truly helps me make sense of my life right now. Thank you so much.

        As of 02/22/2012 in Washington State pharmacists can exercise their "religious freedom" by denying women access to Plan B because the judge thinks there aren't any bigots in this state.

        by FlamingoGrrl on Tue Aug 14, 2012 at 10:30:27 PM PDT

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