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  •  maybe it it, and maybe there's something to it (0+ / 0-)

    and maybe there's "nothing to see here...just move along, folks."

    My extended family has Gay friends (men) who are part of our Thanksgiving, and even Christmas dinners.  We are pretty inclusive, at least to those who wish to be included.

    You can tisk tisk all you want.  And pretend that I am making something up from nothing.  

    It is what it is.  I wish it wasn't...but if wishes were ...well, you know the saying.

    How am I treating them?  "Hey...I just made 4 dozen chocolate  chip cookies...here's a dozen."   "We have more raspberries than we know what to do with, do you guys like raspberries?  Would you like a couple pints?"

    How might I have scripted that interchange better?

    Oregon: Sure...it's cold. But it's a damp cold.

    by Keith930 on Sun Sep 02, 2012 at 06:47:34 PM PDT

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    •  maybe it is... n/t (0+ / 0-)

      Oregon: Sure...it's cold. But it's a damp cold.

      by Keith930 on Sun Sep 02, 2012 at 06:48:30 PM PDT

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    •  I don't know (11+ / 0-)

      All I'm saying is that if you're seeing a specific trait in a group of people- in your case, lesbians, and they all tend towards not wanting to be in your company, it says more about you than it does about lesbians.

      Since I haven't been privy to all of your conversations I can't tell you what you're doing wrong.

      But from your account, lesbians have shunned your company in the workplace and in your neighborhood.

      Since I know and love many lesbians, and, also, since I AM ONE, I have to call bullshit on your assertion that they're all like that, and am more inclined to believe you're doing something wrong.

      P.S. I am not a crackpot.

      by BoiseBlue on Sun Sep 02, 2012 at 06:53:37 PM PDT

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    •  You're taking one experience (13+ / 0-)

      and generalizing it to a whole population. You know what we call that, don't you?

      Thanks to my new church, I know LOTS of lesbians! (In a previous life, I knew more gay men because I was involved with community theatre. There you go for the stereotypes.) What I can say about this big group is, they are just like all the other women I've known in my life, except cooler. Well, the straight women at my new church are cooler, too, so that's nothing extraordinary. If you know ONE couple, it's really dumb to extrapolate that ALL are like that.

      And it's really rude to dump your prejudice on the tip jar.

      Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. Throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. --Mark Twain

      by Debby on Sun Sep 02, 2012 at 07:06:56 PM PDT

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    •  Well.. (9+ / 0-)

      ..some people are shy, some people are assholes. When you start to figure it has to do with folks' sexual orientation/gender/skin color, etc., and not their character as individuals, that's what makes you a bigot.

      If you can find money to kill people, you can find money to help people. --Tony Benn

      by rhetoricus on Sun Sep 02, 2012 at 09:21:37 PM PDT

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    •  Well, if you have gay men over once a year- maybe (3+ / 0-)
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      BoiseBlue, TiaRachel, Damnit Janet

      even twice if they say pretty please- then you definitely earn a get-out-of-homophobia-free card. Whew, that's a lotta work, including gays 1-2 times a year!

      You do realize how cuckoo for cocoa puffs it sounds when you complain that lesbians won't eat your chocolate cookies? And you want us all to admit what we're too afraid to say: lesbians don't eat our cookies, damn it! It's like they are ripping society apart by not eating our cookies.

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