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  •  Congratulations yourself! (5+ / 0-)
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    blueoasis, boran2, llbear, Avilyn, diggerspop
    BTW, I'm bi and still married.  
    I'm entirely sure that it's possible, and that it's very rewarding for those who pull it off.

    Best!

    •  I don't "pull it off". (2+ / 0-)
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      I just remain closeted.

      I'm not always political, but when I am I vote Democratic. Stay Democratic, my friends. -The Most Interesting Man in the World

      by boran2 on Thu Oct 11, 2012 at 07:17:51 AM PDT

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      •  i did that too. (4+ / 0-)
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        hugs to you.  that is not easy.  maybe someday you will decide to make a change but you have to do what is right for you.  my shrink told me "one day you will just wake up and be like "this is it, i've made a decision" and it was true.  that is exactly what happened to me.

        lokah samastah sukhino bhavantu

        by jodygirl on Thu Oct 11, 2012 at 07:51:37 AM PDT

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        •  Thanks. (3+ / 0-)
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          I've been doing a lot of thinking lately.

          I'm not always political, but when I am I vote Democratic. Stay Democratic, my friends. -The Most Interesting Man in the World

          by boran2 on Thu Oct 11, 2012 at 08:00:16 AM PDT

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          •  i found a therapist who went thru same thing (5+ / 0-)
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            and wasn't pushy one way or another but she really really helped me to help myself so much.  i was so lost.  i sometimes felt like a should just be sent to a hospital and sedated because for a year or 2 my days and nights were spent agonizing over what to do, who would i hurt, should i take one for the team, would everyone hate me.  i tried to juggle everything and please everyone and was just so tortured.  i know it sounds dramatic but i srsly was just idk idk idk idk idk idk idk idk idk 24/7 and it was excruciating.  that is part of what hurts so much about his families rejection.  we were so close.  they don't know and will never understand the amount of self flagellation and self hatred that went into the final conclusion.  that i deserve a piece of happiness in my life too.  and that i will continue to do whatever i have to to try and give my son a wonderful life full of happy memories in spite of this divorce but i cannot completely sacrifice myself anymore.  i just can't.  and i could still love them and still be a loving caring aunt to their kids but they have made their decision as i have made mine.  fortunately i have many supporters and my gf is amazing and makes me happy all the time.  so wishing you good luck.  i know how difficult the journey is.  but if you decide to make it, it is full of adventure and surprises and discoveries and liberation.  i feel so FREE.  but there will be hurt too.  and it lessens in time and is replaced with your own love and acceptance for yourself if you are lucky.  BIG BIG BIG BIG HUGS TO YOU BORAN!  

            lokah samastah sukhino bhavantu

            by jodygirl on Thu Oct 11, 2012 at 08:29:01 AM PDT

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