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  •  I broke forever with my closest friend... (9+ / 0-)

    about 20 years ago. He was my closest and best friend for decades. Dated my sister for a while. Drinking buddies back in the day, the guy I could call at 3 am for a ride home.

    But that all changed when his grandmother got sick at age 85, and spent weeks on a ventilator in the ICU. She was frail, demented, and obviously destined to pass away sooner rather than later. As a young family physician I felt obligated to gently mention to him that hyper-aggressive last-ditch care is often futile, cruel and wasteful when applied to frail elderly patients.

    His response simply stunned me. He said, "I don't fucking care. She's my blood. I want her kept alive if it takes the last dollar in America." So I had to know if he understood what he was saying; I asked him, "Do you feel the same way about other peoples' grandmothers? That we have an obligation to do everything possible for them too?" He said, "Of course not. They're not my blood. I don't want a fucking nickel of my money spent keeping other people alive. Let 'em die."

    It was a revelation. My friend was a sociopath. Smart guy, well educated, hilariously funny, fascinating to talk to. But a sociopath who could not see any moral or logical inconsistency in wanting to spend endless public resources keeping his elderly grandmother alive, and simultaneously wanting to prevent any resources going to preserve the lives of anyone else's grandmother.

    I haven't spoken with him since.

    •  Wow. Just ... wow. (1+ / 0-)
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      Amazing that he would so openly express such a cruel & hypocritical view like that.

      Being the single intellectual in a village of 1,100 souls ain't much fun, especially when 1,099 of those don't think you're all that smart.--Lucy Marsden

      by Miniaussiefan on Thu Oct 18, 2012 at 05:02:38 AM PDT

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    •  That's horrible, but unfortunately all too common (2+ / 0-)
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      an attitude these days. Not to mention that his total lack of concern over the quality of his grandmother's life not just the quantity.

      "The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends towards justice. We must put our hands on it and we must bend it in the direction of justice." MLK

      by mindara on Thu Oct 18, 2012 at 05:03:58 AM PDT

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