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    abuse, becomes complicit. Authority which sides with the abuser is a perpetrator. Legislators who support the intent of the rapist, to implant his seed by force, are vicarious rapists themselves.
    Rape is abuse. However, the thing about abuse is that the abused person is inclined to think that if s/he is just a bit more obedient, the abuser will cease. Abuse is essentially preemptive punishment for a "crime" that hasn't been committed yet. So, in the interest of demonstrating virtue as well making an effort to assert autonomy, the victim bends over backwards to become compliant and bring a halt to the abuse--i.e.  take control of her life. That it is not going to work because abusers are never satisfied doesn't occur to the good person who's got no interest in injuring someone else.
    Which is why it is necessary for a third party to intervene and call a halt. There is no self-defense to injurious, but not lethal behavior.
    I think we don't fully understand sadists. We think sadistic behavior is kinky. It's not. Sadists inflict harm because it makes them feel important, powerful. Sadism responds to the lust for power. We are mistaken when we think lust is restricted to sexual attraction. The lust to destroy seems much more potent. I think that's want we see in Willard's smirk. It really is more of a leer.

    We organize governments to provide benefits and prevent abuse.

    by hannah on Fri Oct 26, 2012 at 03:11:46 AM PDT

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