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  •  My son recently came out to me as bisexual (17+ / 0-)

    And knowing the increased risk of suicide and depression among LGBT youth has me doing everything I can to reassure him nothing has changed, as PFLAG advises. He still has to do his homework, he should still use protection if he has sex, and he's still the son I love to death.

    He has asperger's and isn't often very expressive, but when I said nothing had changed in how I felt about him, he gave me the biggest smile. I wish every parent of a young person who comes out would realize that his or her child's life could be at stake and they need support more tham ever.

    Your post is so painful to read. I can imagine how lonely and hurting and scared these kids must be. I really appreciate this group's efforts and desire to make sure these kids know that there is nothing wrong with them -- it is their parents who are fucked up.

    We Won't Let Republicans Replace Medicare with GOP Vouchercare!

    by CatM on Sat Nov 10, 2012 at 07:14:04 PM PST

    •  You're clearly a loving, supportive, (10+ / 0-)

      and intelligent parent, and I congratulate you. We can only wish that there were more like you, and fewer who reject their offspring as "imperfect."

      It's not just a zip code, it's an attitude.

      by sboucher on Sat Nov 10, 2012 at 07:20:47 PM PST

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      •  It feels weird (8+ / 0-)

        recommending a post full of praise for one's self, but thank you. I still have a lot of questions and confusion, not because I am unhappy about who he is, but because I am very worried for him. It must be so hard for these kids to tell their parents, and to have that bravery and the trust they have in their parents love -- that it will overcome religious bigotry -- crushed is so incredibly tragic. For me, it's not about intelligence, just love. I have spent his whole life trying to make him happy and keep him safe. And the minute after he told me he was bisexual, it was easy to see he was the exact same kid as he was 2 minutes earlier. I don't know why that's so hard for parents to see.

        How do we educate these parents and counter the damage these zealous homophobic religious groups are doing to these families?

        We Won't Let Republicans Replace Medicare with GOP Vouchercare!

        by CatM on Sat Nov 10, 2012 at 07:30:32 PM PST

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        •  I understand where you're coming from (4+ / 0-)
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          because I have a nephew with Asberger's. It's hard enough for them to form relationships, so it's a joy that he's been able to make this connection.

          Being a parent of a child with Asberger's means a lot of extra work to do as all parents want to: keep their children happy and safe. You've earned bragging rights.

          It's not just a zip code, it's an attitude.

          by sboucher on Sat Nov 10, 2012 at 07:36:30 PM PST

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        •  Just being there for him (6+ / 0-)

          will help keep the sad statistics from growing. Believe me, he's facing a much better world than I grew up in. I'll continue to do my part and fight for his future. You've done a nice job with your part already.

        •  You're an awesome parent (6+ / 0-)

          and your love & support will make a huge difference in your son's life.  There's some very solid research showing that LGBT kids who get support from their familes avoid most of the harmful outcomes that can effect kids who are rejected.

          If you haven't seen it yet, I highly recommend looking at the Family Acceptance Project.  I thik it will be both useful and reassuring for you.

          I've been working with homeless kids for more than 25 years, and have seen many gay kids who were kicked out by their families.  It's heartbreaking. But there are lots good programs out there that help kids develop the resilience they need to makt it to adulthood.

          best of luck.

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