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  •  i've use that "language" at times, (1+ / 0-)
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    but let me assure you, it was not to point to any "disability of birth or injury", and definately not to inflict pain on anyone who truly suffers from any sort of mental "handicap". Those who are disabled are not, to me, "retarded" in the conventional useage of the word, they just face more challenges in their lives than those of us who "claim" to be "competent".It is an invective I use to insult those among us who choose to remain ignorant of the damage they inflict on a civilized society. In any event I grew up using the word asshole for such people instead of retarded. I was taught chess by a friend who suffered from epilepsy. Many who did not "know" him spoke of him as retarded. He was whip smart. That was over 45 years ago. We sometimes become very emotional in the heat of our disgust and strike with what we believe is the "appropriate" response to such creeps.

    The velcro scociopath,bishop willard mitch romney.

    by longtimelurker on Fri Nov 09, 2012 at 10:03:01 PM PST

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    •  language can inflict pain & do things in the world (6+ / 0-)

      I can see that you are a well meaning person, and so I ask to please be allowed to share two small points.  First, like the people who are the subject of this article, who used the "n" word and so forth to inflict pain, or why-ever they spew, there are a lot of conventional words that do the same thing when they fly around in public discourse.   In addition to insulting the people they are aimed at, they have an unintended consequence, perhaps a cumulative consequence, of creating stigma.  People might not intend to directly insult individuals with disabilities when they use "retard" to disparage someone, or to mock something they think is stupid or ridiculous, but when you have a disability, or a loved one does, and the insult du jour equates your particular condition with something negative, it is hard not to feel the smack.  It's not just racial slurs, like if we use phrases like, "I n-rigged it," or "I got jewed," or "he gyped me," or "she's an Indian-giver," because the nastiness does it's secondary work in the world by falsly associating behavior with groups of people.  Secondly, please understand, my son, who has intellectual disabilities, does not "truly suffer" from his condition.  Too many people still say that.  It's another conventional use of language that marginalizes people with that particular disability into the category of those who need to be pitied.  He doesn't suffer.  He's funny, mischevious, and healthy and engaged.  He "suffers" nothing except prejudice.  He just needs some supports.  Also, I do understand your point about how crappy people treat those with disabilities.  I had a dear friend who passed away recently after dealing with MS for decades. Eventually he used a wheelchair, as he kept working as a lawyer clerking for a judge.  I always cringed, (but snickered,) when people bent over to talk more slowly, dumbed down, and louder to him, because they didn't anticipate the shitstorm they were about to suffer.  

      •  He "suffers" nothing except prejudice. (2+ / 0-)
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        nzanne, NancyK

        Beautifully said -- everything you said.  You totally rock and I wish all the best to you and your wonderful son.

        Every honest communication poses a risk that we will hear something that could challenge or change us. -- Kenneth Cloke

        by GreenMtnState on Sat Nov 10, 2012 at 07:15:21 AM PST

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    •  See Dostoevski's novel Idiot eom (0+ / 0-)

      America—We built that!

      by Mokurai on Sat Nov 10, 2012 at 07:28:58 AM PST

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