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  •  It was pretty bad judgement (4+ / 0-)

    to talk about your sister's actions on Facebook, regardless of who was theoretically authorized to see it.   You'll be taking plenty of grief on this so you don't need it from me -- but please, for your own sake, learn once and for all right now, the lesson of Internet discretion and discretion generally.  

    Honestly I think you might try apologizing to your family, and especially your sister -- not for your beliefs, or (how ridiculous) for the occasional cuss word -- but for hurting them.  Because I suspect they ARE hurting.   She may have made bad and inconsistent choices, but believe me she will pay a price for them.  Give her love and understanding.  Be more Christian than the professed Christians.  

    As far as defending your beliefs without getting ugly about it -- save that for another day.  Nobody is going to change their mind in the middle of this hot  mess.   Just tell them that certain topics will have to be off limits but you still love them -- unless you're too mad too right now, in which case just keep your mouth shut and stay away.

    "The extinction of the human race will come from its inability to EMOTIONALLY comprehend the exponential function." -- Edward Teller

    by lgmcp on Fri Nov 09, 2012 at 05:16:54 PM PST

    •  I wasn't sure what that meant -- did he (2+ / 0-)
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      specify that she got an abortion, or just obliquely refer to "her recent actions"?

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      by cai on Fri Nov 09, 2012 at 05:26:07 PM PST

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      •  I suppose I was assuming (1+ / 0-)
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        not necessarily that he spilled EVERY detail, but at the least that he made it clear that the circumstances of her marriage were appalling to him.  Not a posture that would ever conduce to family harmony.  

        "The extinction of the human race will come from its inability to EMOTIONALLY comprehend the exponential function." -- Edward Teller

        by lgmcp on Fri Nov 09, 2012 at 05:29:58 PM PST

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    •  Thank you, thank you, thank you (3+ / 0-)
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      I'm so glad you responded. As far as your advice, I have apologized. Both to my sister specifically, and to those involved, in the general sense that they were affected. I fully understand that my actions were out of bounds. However, the way things were left from their side, in terms of not responding to me, is that, I am either on drugs-coke and meth were mentioned specifically, or so mentally ill that my presence would be damaging. So I either needed to seek help for said unknown addiction, or get psychiatric help, before they could deal with me. So that is where I find myself. "Broke and looking for communal therapy". Again thank you so much for your response.

      •  They choose to believe your wits are addled (2+ / 0-)
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        by drugs or disease, so that they can find an way to recast some unpleasant truths you have spoken as crazed ravings.  You don't sound crazy to me, but you ARE distressed, for a lot of reasons both current and historical.  Almost everybody can learn something from therapy, and I recommend it -- probably not the same flavor as THEY might recommend, but some variety or other, to help you gain perspective on all this.  However as you say cost is always a consideration.  Shop around for support groups, buy some self-help books, what the heck.  AA, NA, and Al-Anon are huge in part because they are free, and some people find comfort in them even where substance abuse is not their chief concern.  

        "The extinction of the human race will come from its inability to EMOTIONALLY comprehend the exponential function." -- Edward Teller

        by lgmcp on Fri Nov 09, 2012 at 06:06:19 PM PST

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