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  •  'it' isn't gonna be ok, but you will. (3+ / 0-)
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    FloridaSNMOM, mamamorgaine, Mrs M

    I say that confidently because you seem to be self-aware, able to express yourself honestly, willing even to be honest with those who need that most. everyone acknowledging our various dysfunctionalities helps a lot because we can quit saving face, playing games and contriving words in hopes of a certain result.  

    with that being rare, it isn't likely that you will find your family able to join you in the real. you'll be okay because you will continue to find strength in that honesty and become less dependent on others.  'it' won't be okay outside of you because the habit of contriving and trying to control 'it' is strong and mother has been at it for a long time.  her self-assessment depends too much on things she can't control. as a mother, I know this feeling too well. but I have learned that mothering is more like loving and nurturing than directing and advising.  I hope that this new mother my kids have now will be a blessing to them.   it may not impact their trajectory, but it should soften the edges of harsh reality.

    obviously I am saying these things from my own perspective with little knowledge of your details.  it is all I have to offer.  

    sometimes I spend more time reading the comments than the diaries. no offense to diarists: thanks for the launch pad.

    by dunnjen on Sun Nov 18, 2012 at 06:20:27 AM PST

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