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  •  Those who discuss golf scores and the best (8+ / 0-)

    dessert recipes rushed into conventionality.  They were, maybe are, more than that, but have abandoned a larger, higher sense of self in order to be comfortable with the group.  Maybe they are the ones to be pitied.

    As for reproduction, more of us need to not reproduce.  Pat your self on the back for choosing to be one of the ones who performed this invaluable service for humankind.  I will start an organization soon to hand out medals to those of us who serve humanity in this special way.  We need the recognition.

    The elevation of appearance over substance, of celebrity over character, of short term gains over lasting achievement displays a poverty of ambition. It distracts you from what's truly important. - Barack Obama

    by helfenburg on Sun Nov 25, 2012 at 09:41:52 AM PST

    •  The old pain (7+ / 0-)

      I have friends who never felt odd for being unconventional. Their parents were enlightened and intellectual, and conformity was a spectacle to them. Most of my friends, though, are like me, and they have been "That One" all their lives.

      I remember having my eyes opened by hearing the director of graduate studies where I got my master's talking about how his sister was mean to him and accused him of being arrogant. He was in his 60's.

      I used to think, "If only I'd taken a job at a gas station, knocked up a girl, gotten a double wide on rented land, and developed a refined appreciation for rice malt beers, I'd be happy." The snobbery of that thought is one sin I've repented of, but the duncery of it is another. The people who conform are not happier, but, and I think this is something, they are more easily distracted from their unhappiness, and, even more, they can find someone or something to blame and feel exonerated.

      The gender-walled conversations and materialism aren't even genuine, necessarily. They're learned, and they're the common ground. "We can all do this" is tacitly assumed. Well, I can't.

      Time is not a fiction; it is a narrative.

      by The Geogre on Sun Nov 25, 2012 at 10:15:37 AM PST

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