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  •  Your younger relatives (5+ / 0-)

    might very well need someone with your insight and perspective to be part of their lives. One or two of them might have trouble fitting into their conventional families and having the benevolent interest of an older relative could make all the difference for them. Please keep an eye on them as they grow.

    And thank you for the poems. I have an anthology with some Hopkins poems in it. I will go read them now.

    There is not such a cradle of democracy upon this earth as the Free Public Library

    by gorgonza on Sun Nov 25, 2012 at 01:19:14 PM PST

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      I have failed one -- or not.

      The son of a first cousin always hung on my words and liked to hear me talk about how appearance and dress are just reflections of how we feel, not what we are. He was growing up before the Internet, and a man with hair over his ears had "hay-r like a girrel." I told him that, first, some men did like men, but who cares, and, second, a hair cut doesn't have that kind of power. He was nine at the time.

      As he headed off to college, he pursued advanced degrees. He also came out as gay.

      I may have helped him, some, but there was too little opportunity to do anything. In particular, my nephews and niece need to know that there are middle ways, that they won't have to choose between kowtowing to a father with norms from the 1940's or blind rebellion. (Rebel with a cause.)

      Time is not a fiction; it is a narrative.

      by The Geogre on Sun Nov 25, 2012 at 04:19:21 PM PST

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