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  •  I just purged a bit (5+ / 0-)
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    dsb, Man Oh Man, sallym, MTmofo, SoCalHobbit

    more than 300 images from my files. A lot were redundant pics of a certain gorgeous actor to whom I was once irrevocably drawn, some were of people I have seen little in the last few years, and a few were of persons or places I care for no longer. What makes us fall out of love with parts of our lives once held special? Age, time, sadness, knowledge that we will never see those people or places ever again? What do I do with photographs of family members when they are related to me only by matter of adoption? These are not blood relatives. These are people from whom I sensed, even as a child, a certain resentment for me being "someone else's." I want to be done with those photos as well, purge them as I did the digital ones. They aren't my people. I am related to no one. I have no family anymore.

    •  Well, you could have a (5+ / 0-)
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      crose, Man Oh Man, SoCalHobbit, dsb, sallym

      Bonfire of the Festivus Grievances in about 25 days.

      I have untold numbers of photos, framed and not, of family and their friends.  No clue who they are.  Even my Mom probably couldn't conjure up a good story about those pics and who is in them.  The pics will get tossed in the recycling bin.

      And another family history shall die in the name of clutter reduction.

      "Go well through life"-Me (As far as I know)

      by MTmofo on Wed Nov 28, 2012 at 09:39:45 PM PST

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    •  Tomorrow... (5+ / 0-)
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      I will do the same. I have kept letters and photos for far too long. I only see them when I'm looking for something else in those boxes. It's time to let go of them. I know that I will keep a few in my memory but most will disappear with time... as they should.

      One must imagine Sisyphus happy. Camus

      by Man Oh Man on Wed Nov 28, 2012 at 09:40:13 PM PST

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    •  Have you ever considered looking for your (5+ / 0-)
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      birth family? I don't know anyone adopted well enough to ask. Certain information could be useful, health and heritage mostly. We've all heard of searches gone good or bad. My initial thought is let sleeping dogs lay, but I grew up in a different family dynamic, the only children of two only children, no aunts, uncles or cousins, and very close to our grandparents. The I have no family anymore, sometimes people outside actual family make better family.

      •  I am lucky (4+ / 0-)
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        (or unlucky) enough to know them. I have a full sister who is in grinding poverty and blames everyone but herself, a half brother who has has several turns as a state legislator, and another half brother who teaches Russian at the University of Ohio. The biological mother died in 1994 and the biological father died just last year at 91. The half brothers are decent people who escaped alcoholic parents and lives of grim drudgery.

        It is true that people outside the family are better in some ways, but I miss being in a small, warm circle of people who gave a shit about me--who asked how I was and meant it, you know? Who loved me.

        •  I thought, after my Dad died (4+ / 0-)
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          that I'm nobody's little girl now. Not that he treated me as such, but I was. He was a great hugger, and always gave a quick peck. He used to come up to my house (They lived 2 blocks away) for breakfast on Sundays and we'd watch football, or whatever sports were on tv. He'd stay all afternoon and fix stuff, snooze or just talk. I really miss that!

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