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  •  My DH teaches high school, (5+ / 0-)

    and I can tell you that the parents who are pushy, pissy and disrespectful do not get the safety and results they're looking for. They get what they ask for--and it's rarely good for their student. "I demand that you switch my child into the afternoon class" or "Are you saying my child isn't smart enough for algebra II?" or "His problem is he's not being challenged in your class" are typical examples.

    When in reality, the teacher deliberately placed the student in the morning class because it was better suited to the student's learning needs; and while this child is certainly smart enough for algebra II she's not academically prepared for it yet; and the reason he's not challenged in class is because he has yet to challenge himself to do a homework assignment all the way to completion. These are things you can tell a parent, but you can't make them listen or understand if they don't want to. Some don't.

    Teachers have generally thought and planned carefully what would be good for students, including students with pushy parents. Since the parents push and push, they sooner or later get what they've asked for. Their child suffers for it, and then the parents show up again, blaming and criticizing the school. Sometimes for the very thing they pushed so hard for earlier.

    Fortunately these only comprise some of the parents. Most of the parents at my DH's school come with a "team effort" attitude, as do the teachers, and painful realities can be discussed and effectively dealt with, as well as plenty of praise, props and kudos for the great stuff the student is doing.

    I'm the spouse, not even the teacher myself, and it's immensely frustrating to me at times. I don't know how my husband does it. He seriously, seriously deserves respect.

    I'm amazed by people's courage and kindness in the face of everything and life.

    by LaraJones on Wed Nov 28, 2012 at 07:02:33 PM PST

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