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  •  As someone who has been snookered by The (1+ / 0-)
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    Nephew and Charley James, I'm more cautious now.

    This story could be true, and if it is, you have my sympathy.

    But I'm skeptical.

    "I believe more women should carry guns. I believe armed women will make the world a better place. Women need to come to think of themselves not as victims but as dangerous." Anna Pigeon

    by glorificus on Mon Dec 03, 2012 at 05:31:53 AM PST

    •  why would you ever say that here gratuitously??!! (5+ / 0-)

      it is very damaging to survivors to get disbelief! retraumatizing often.

      See, if there was a goal (if someone was asking for money not just advice) I'd understand  better your motive and thougth process...that the COST (of which you seem unaware of or don't care about) might be worth the benefit of warning people not to be "snookered".

      The man here asks only for advice. It is gratuitous, it feels to me for you to say what you just did because it gains people nothing. IT just potentially would hurt the poster for nothing. You may be bitter on what happened to you when you were "snookered" ...but we do not require an warning. Because poster isn't asking us for anything.

      It is just not worth it to do that to people ..you are not protecting us from anything. I hope you see that.

      •  You know, jplanner, very little would make me (0+ / 0-)

        happier than for this to be for real.

        Not because I wish bad things had happened to ANYONE.

        "I believe more women should carry guns. I believe armed women will make the world a better place. Women need to come to think of themselves not as victims but as dangerous." Anna Pigeon

        by glorificus on Mon Dec 03, 2012 at 07:58:45 AM PST

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        •  not sure what you mean (0+ / 0-)

          you mean you wish/hope it wasn't real?

          hope you get my point. Best not to say things that can hurt but have no benefit (except for venting's sake perhaps). Not worth the cost.

          THought you must not be aware that posts like yours do hurt true victims. Why take the risk for no gain?

          •  It's possible someone could be here for many (0+ / 0-)

            years, have a 5 digit UID, and yet have no friends/acquaitances that would vouch for them.

            Here all that time, made no friends, yet asks the board for advice?

            Possible, but to my mind wildly improbable.

            Also, the writing style seems very similar to Matt or Charley.

            Unlike you, I'm a member of House of LIGHTS. Do not even try to tell me about true victims.

            "I believe more women should carry guns. I believe armed women will make the world a better place. Women need to come to think of themselves not as victims but as dangerous." Anna Pigeon

            by glorificus on Mon Dec 03, 2012 at 05:56:11 PM PST

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            •  asdf (1+ / 0-)
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              I've no idea what you are talking about House of Lights. No one is competing for victim status.
              but I still think it's better err on side of caution and take people seriously when they claim it, so as not to hurt true victims. If you don't agree, fine, but surely you can then see
              why I think you must not know this about victims
              of violence and abuse since you would do this.

              Peace.

    •  Check the user ID. (2+ / 0-)
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      glorificus, SilentBrook

      If love could have saved you, you would have lived forever. & http://www.dailykos.com/blog/Okiciyap

      by weck on Mon Dec 03, 2012 at 07:51:06 AM PST

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    •  I'm sorry for your cynicism... (7+ / 0-)

      Believe me, I'm a big ball of it myself with good reason. My old user ID contains (foolishly, I suppose) enough of my real name to identify me. I would really rather just keep that possibility closed right now.

      I don't mean any harm and I'm not asking for anything but thoughts and opinions. This story is my story. I'm a grown man with a wife and kids who happened to spend his childhood with really crappy things happening to him. I'm just trying to make a difficult decision about what is best or possible for me and my family and thought I might ask for some thoughts in a place where I have seen many well-intentioned, intelligent, thoughtful people write about so may things.

      Yahoo! Answers didn't really seem a great idea.

      Thank you for reading  though.

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