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  •  I'm a man, though a very gay one. ;D (8+ / 0-)

    The same right back to you Shiz!

    •  Gay man - Good man (11+ / 0-)

      As another gay man who lives on disability and who is very sensitive to the disabled, the poor, the sick & who worked a tough civilian career as a Child Abuse Investigator (CPI) & Supervisor (CPIS) and a Juvenile Justice Court Counselor working with disadvantaged youth (Now happily retired) you show a kind and loving humanity between the lines and in the lines of your post.

      You must be a very nice man.

      PEACE & LOVE

      •  Wow !! You have my deepest admiration !! (7+ / 0-)

        I had to acknowledge to myself that I wasn't tough enough to be able to help abused kids at the level you did.

        I did advocate for kids & families with learning disabilities & mental health issues in my area. Learned a lot & saw a fair amount of evil.

        Thanks for all your caring & service...

        Something that doesn't make good sense, makes bad sense. That means someone is being deliberately hurtful & selfish. Look for motives behind actions & words.

        by CA wildwoman on Wed Dec 05, 2012 at 04:04:26 AM PST

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        •  I never imagined when starting my career (5+ / 0-)

          how difficult the work would be.  I was placed at a desk and  file cabinet with 45 cases of emotionally handicapped children/teens, some in Foster Care, many in group homes or treatment facilities - some in shelter (some could only live in shelter and would constantly run).  Thinking back, I did an impossible job - in court three times a week and transporting children in the Tampa/St. Pete area.  Placements would break down all the time.

          I still have bad dreams sometimes, with some of the most severely abused children (a death or two - not during our supervision) still in my memories.  Some of the neediest were teens who had spent their lives in Foster Care.

          I honor you for your advocacy for those who deal with mental health issues and learning disabilities.  

          I remember reading "The People of the Lie," M. Scott Peck - I am not religious.  I recognized some of the parents and extended family members who lived in evil, at times, from my own caseloads.

          PEACE & The very best to you.

          •  I was a foster parent for about 10 years. (2+ / 0-)
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            I still think about some of those kids and worry about how they're doing. It was the most stressful and most rewarding work I've ever done.

            I worked with some great cps caseworkers who made the transitions for these kids much easier. It sounds like you were one.

            •  Good foster parents are a blessing to society ... (2+ / 0-)
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              and they don't get enough information or other supports to make up for the caring & challenging work they do every day.

              Bless you  &  Thanks for working to help kids in distress ...

              Something that doesn't make good sense, makes bad sense. That means someone is being deliberately hurtful & selfish. Look for motives behind actions & words.

              by CA wildwoman on Thu Dec 06, 2012 at 01:18:11 AM PST

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            •  You deserve so much credit (1+ / 0-)
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              Thank you for being a dedicated Foster Parent.  I met some miracle workers in my fifteen years of working with children & families & foster paprents who often amazed me with their skills at dealing with troubled children.  Some of the teens were extremely needy and manipulative - but that was one way for them to stay afloat in the muddy swamp of their lives.  Some were remarkably smart and adaptive - I mean both the teens and the special needs foster parents.

          •  "People of the Lie" is a powerful book ... (1+ / 0-)
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            for helping good or innocent people make sense of evil it's impossible for them to imagine. It helped me develop the idea for what is now my 'sig. line.'

            I recommend it to everyone I meet who is dealing with abusers in their lives, so they have a chance to understand unthinkable motives of the people who are hurting them.
            It's a first step in learning to get away & stay safe (it's heartbreaking when kids can't find safety.)

            I started having bad dreams really quick whenever I found myself dealing with abusive parents or caregivers.
            My parents are wonderful, but some relatives were really bad child abusers. I think I developed my 'gut sense' from the few times I was around them. Some of them lived in Florida (Palatka) & I've disliked Florida since I was a little kid - didn't feel safe.

            Again, I honor your commitment to children.

            I hope your retirement is a happy one & you get to have fun now.

            PEACE back at you & Best Wishes ...

            Something that doesn't make good sense, makes bad sense. That means someone is being deliberately hurtful & selfish. Look for motives behind actions & words.

            by CA wildwoman on Thu Dec 06, 2012 at 01:14:23 AM PST

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        •  Thank you (3+ / 0-)

          Thanks for what you did for kids and families.

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