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  •  Wow !! You have my deepest admiration !! (7+ / 0-)

    I had to acknowledge to myself that I wasn't tough enough to be able to help abused kids at the level you did.

    I did advocate for kids & families with learning disabilities & mental health issues in my area. Learned a lot & saw a fair amount of evil.

    Thanks for all your caring & service...

    Something that doesn't make good sense, makes bad sense. That means someone is being deliberately hurtful & selfish. Look for motives behind actions & words.

    by CA wildwoman on Wed Dec 05, 2012 at 04:04:26 AM PST

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    •  I never imagined when starting my career (5+ / 0-)

      how difficult the work would be.  I was placed at a desk and  file cabinet with 45 cases of emotionally handicapped children/teens, some in Foster Care, many in group homes or treatment facilities - some in shelter (some could only live in shelter and would constantly run).  Thinking back, I did an impossible job - in court three times a week and transporting children in the Tampa/St. Pete area.  Placements would break down all the time.

      I still have bad dreams sometimes, with some of the most severely abused children (a death or two - not during our supervision) still in my memories.  Some of the neediest were teens who had spent their lives in Foster Care.

      I honor you for your advocacy for those who deal with mental health issues and learning disabilities.  

      I remember reading "The People of the Lie," M. Scott Peck - I am not religious.  I recognized some of the parents and extended family members who lived in evil, at times, from my own caseloads.

      PEACE & The very best to you.

      •  I was a foster parent for about 10 years. (2+ / 0-)
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        I still think about some of those kids and worry about how they're doing. It was the most stressful and most rewarding work I've ever done.

        I worked with some great cps caseworkers who made the transitions for these kids much easier. It sounds like you were one.

        •  Good foster parents are a blessing to society ... (2+ / 0-)
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          and they don't get enough information or other supports to make up for the caring & challenging work they do every day.

          Bless you  &  Thanks for working to help kids in distress ...

          Something that doesn't make good sense, makes bad sense. That means someone is being deliberately hurtful & selfish. Look for motives behind actions & words.

          by CA wildwoman on Thu Dec 06, 2012 at 01:18:11 AM PST

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        •  You deserve so much credit (1+ / 0-)
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          Thank you for being a dedicated Foster Parent.  I met some miracle workers in my fifteen years of working with children & families & foster paprents who often amazed me with their skills at dealing with troubled children.  Some of the teens were extremely needy and manipulative - but that was one way for them to stay afloat in the muddy swamp of their lives.  Some were remarkably smart and adaptive - I mean both the teens and the special needs foster parents.

      •  "People of the Lie" is a powerful book ... (1+ / 0-)
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        for helping good or innocent people make sense of evil it's impossible for them to imagine. It helped me develop the idea for what is now my 'sig. line.'

        I recommend it to everyone I meet who is dealing with abusers in their lives, so they have a chance to understand unthinkable motives of the people who are hurting them.
        It's a first step in learning to get away & stay safe (it's heartbreaking when kids can't find safety.)

        I started having bad dreams really quick whenever I found myself dealing with abusive parents or caregivers.
        My parents are wonderful, but some relatives were really bad child abusers. I think I developed my 'gut sense' from the few times I was around them. Some of them lived in Florida (Palatka) & I've disliked Florida since I was a little kid - didn't feel safe.

        Again, I honor your commitment to children.

        I hope your retirement is a happy one & you get to have fun now.

        PEACE back at you & Best Wishes ...

        Something that doesn't make good sense, makes bad sense. That means someone is being deliberately hurtful & selfish. Look for motives behind actions & words.

        by CA wildwoman on Thu Dec 06, 2012 at 01:14:23 AM PST

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    •  Thank you (3+ / 0-)

      Thanks for what you did for kids and families.

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