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  •  YES!!! European attitude! (5+ / 0-)

    That's how I was raised! Had my first sip of wine at Thanksgiving or Christmas, age 7, for the toast. Was allowed a half glass at 12. Had wine with dinner at home at 16. Parents knew we drank when we went out, but due to allowance restrictions and lectures on self-control and being ladylike, I never got drunk. Would have a glass of water in between drinks to have something in my hand, also to keep sober-ish.

    Had my first beer at the end of 8th grade. We all went to a classmate's house in Southampton, armed with beer or cigarettes. Lmao. Hated the taste, still do.

    But...I cannot bring myself to give my kids wine. Weird, huh? Maybe because DH not raised as I was? Times have changed? But i do want them to grow up with a relaxed attitude, as I did. I don't want them to think that booze is something forbidden that must be consumed sneakily in great quantities. I need to talk to my mother about this.

    •  Re. the European attitude... (2+ / 0-)
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      The Marti, BadKitties

      sounds like your kids are still pretty young.  Age 12 or so is plenty early to start allowing a sip of wine at dinner, at least for special occasions.  That may be something DH might be comfortable with and is still in plenty of time to instill self-control and healthy attitudes toward social drinking.

      Some people fight fire with fire. Professionals use water.

      by Happy Days on Fri Dec 07, 2012 at 10:11:39 AM PST

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    •  Our kids may have small drinks with us (2+ / 0-)
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      BadKitties, Mr Robert

      if they choose (not spirits, but we have let them taste whiskey, which was not popular at the children's table!), and usually they choose not to, at mealtime when we have wine or something.

      In Wisconsin, kids under 18 (I think) can drink from their parent's glass in a restaurant (very powerful tavern lobby) which I think is pretty cool! We have enjoyed that law.

      My parents let us try anything. They lived to regret letting the toddlers try lobster, lamb chops, quiche, etc. because then we wanted our fair share at the table.

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