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  •  My not-very-communicative daughter (8+ / 0-)

    with autism will cry sometimes, without provocation or any discernible reason.  I wonder if she's remembering unpleasant things, either that happened to her or things she saw on tv that frightened her.

    It's hard to get past, though, when she can't communicate what's going on.

    It usually passes pretty quickly, then is back to her normal self.

    Frankenoid, a few comments up, is right on the money, though. And frankly, I have to work with all my kids on this.  Just because you said something goofy in the cafeteria doesn't mean no one is ever going to like you again.

    I blog about my daughter with autism at her website

    by coquiero on Thu Dec 06, 2012 at 04:19:08 PM PST

    •  That's really hard to believe. (7+ / 0-)
      Just because you said something goofy in the cafeteria doesn't mean no one is ever going to like you again.
      I so sympathize with your daughter, because that's also one of my worst anxieties. I will remember social gaffes from years ago - hell, DECADES ago - and it will be just like it's happening right now. I relive those moments with all the embarrassment and shame they brought the first time. It happens randomly and without warning, and when it does, nothing I do will help it stop. I just have to ruminate on it until it goes away; I don't have a choice about that.

      Mostly all I can say is "the memories are here again." That means "You can't help me with it, I just have to grit my teeth and endure it until the feelings stop."

      "Compassion is not weakness, and concern for the unfortunate is not socialism." - Hubert Humphrey

      by Killer of Sacred Cows on Thu Dec 06, 2012 at 07:15:47 PM PST

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