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  •  Answered this above. (1+ / 0-)
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    Avilyn

    By the way, it's probably your tone, but I have taken offense to any of your questions.

    •  have *not* taken offense - sorry. (1+ / 0-)
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      •  good because i did not mean any offense (1+ / 0-)
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        FourthOfJulyAsburyPark

        just trying to understand how this can actually happen to someone.

        If i try for some "hey hey" with my wife while she's sleeping, she instantly wakes up, says no, and makes me feel like a bad puppy.

        95% of all life forms that once existed on earth are now extinct. It is only a matter of time until the Republicans follow suit.

        by PRRedlin on Tue Dec 11, 2012 at 11:12:15 AM PST

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        •  I am the light sleeper in the house, and probably (2+ / 0-)
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          Avilyn, Cassandra Waites

          of all the family members in any direction. My spouse and children sleep through anything and everything. Sometimes I envy them that ability. To sleep so soundly. People are different in this respect. Some of it natural, some of it conditioned, but different nonetheless.

          I sleep deeper when I am surrounded by my family, than I would in other areas, because I feel safer. That is usually how it is for people in caring relationships. It's can and should be a major component--feeling safe.

          Some people, unfortunately are not always blessed with trusting, safe relationships where they can sleep without a care on their mind. And some, like this woman, found out after the fact.

          How did he get her clothes off? They have no kids at this point. She could have been in the buff and that would not be unheard of. That is another component of trust. Being able to be naked around your S.O. and feel safe, even if you are asleep and naked.

          A thoughtful partner would not go there at all.

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