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  •  For some people, that's a stress reaction. (19+ / 0-)

    Some people laugh, often uncontrollably. Some people get facial twitches or tics. Some people vomit. Some faint.  Some people grin (or grimace). Some become numb, almost catatonic. Some become numb and very businesslike, like this is all happening to someone else. There is no normal way to react.

    It's all pretty much beyond their control. They're functioning the best they can; and their bodies are struggling to be effective with stress hormones, lack of sleep, usually lack of food, etc  as well.

    It's best not to judge people going through extraordinary stress like this from overt behaviors that seem odd or "creepy" to you. Unless you've been through a severe sudden overwhelming crisis, you never know how you yourself might be under the same conditions.

    And even if you have, every loss you experience gets re-experienced with new losses, so the effect is compounded. Humans are not really wired for this sort of stuff. At least, we're not wired to go through it smoothly.

    © grover

    So if you get hit by a bus tonight, would you be satisfied with how you spent today, your last day on earth? Live like tomorrow is never guaranteed, because it's not. -- Me.

    by grover on Mon Dec 17, 2012 at 12:29:05 AM PST

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    •  What a kind and compassionate (4+ / 0-)

      response, Grover, and a reminder to all of us to judge not.

      Being the single intellectual in a village of 1,100 souls ain't much fun, especially when 1,099 of those don't think you're all that smart.--Lucy Marsden

      by Miniaussiefan on Mon Dec 17, 2012 at 03:22:25 AM PST

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    •  very true. When my mother passed, I was all (3+ / 0-)

      business from the time I was told she was gone until the day we had her service. The following weeks, I was inconsolable. I didn't cry until after all the formal arrangements had been performed. I even held her hands as her nail technician painted her nails for the viewing. Never cried. But the following weeks, I'd breakdown at random times throughout the day. It was strange because during those first few days, I was proud of myself for handling it so well only to find out that I was just holding it together for my father. Once the obligations were finished, I just had a breakdown. And now it's been 6 years but there are still days when I will just start crying thinking about her but I think that goes with any loss.

      It is just a matter of how you personally react to stress.  

      Earth: Mostly harmless ~ The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy (revised entry)

      by yawnimawke on Mon Dec 17, 2012 at 06:41:46 AM PST

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