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  •  I resented being talked-down-to as a teen (3+ / 0-)
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    I come from a family where  Keeping Up Appearances mattered a lot. Too much. Style over substance at times.

    So one of my personal rules I made up as I grew into adulthood is: never make a bullshit rule. A bullshit rule is anything you can't logically back and live, in reality.

    If a person is intelligent/aware/adult enough to ask a question, I believe they deserve the honest answer. With the same parameters and boundaries that apply to adults; (ie: don't ask me specifically about handcuffs, if you are going to be scarred for life by my answers that may be based upon personal experience. And yes, I do warn before I answer)  But if you ask "Auntie Cinn" why one of your cousins seems to have fallen into disfavor with the rest of the family? Yep, I'll tell you. The REAL story,  not some bullshit fairytale, and then you can make up your own mind where you fall in the fray, dear. You were keen enough to observe things to ask, I'll respect your intelligence enough to answer, and hope you learn from it.

    Luminous beings are we, not this crude matter. ~ Yoda Political Compass: -8.50, -6.46

    by Cinnamon on Wed Dec 19, 2012 at 09:07:15 PM PST

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    •  We all react to- or against- (3+ / 0-)
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      our upbringing. My parents were great in many ways, but very much into shielding us from difficult topics. I've never done that with my kids- mostly because it drove me crazy as a kid. And I do agree with what you wrote above about the conspiracy of silence that can arise where kids become the ones shielding their parents, I know I did.

      It was the same with teachers; when I was a freshman there was an appalling rape/torture/murder of a girl in a safe little catholic girls's school just like mine. The nuns completely changed our schedule so that we would not be commuting to school in the dark.  They said it was for our safety but never told us specifically why the big change. But of course we all knew- we could read the newspaper for crying out loud- but there was no opportunity to talk about it with adults. Cause they were protecting us. So we all drove each other nuts imagining that we would be next.

      •  I'm sorry I didn't see this until now (0+ / 0-)

        Crazy-busy the last 2 days.  Would have like to be able to tip. And, I'm so sorry for what you went through at such a young age.

        Luminous beings are we, not this crude matter. ~ Yoda Political Compass: -8.50, -6.46

        by Cinnamon on Fri Dec 21, 2012 at 02:26:23 PM PST

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