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  •  My personal policy.... (6+ / 0-)

    that I try very hard to stick to is this:

    Any comment that really angers me, and sometimes even just really hits me emotionally, I walk away from for at least a half an hour. I try not to write from a high emotion point because I tend to be less coherent,- make more typos, and mis-speak. It also gives me time to do any research needed to back up a point.
    If I come back later and I'm still too angry to think clearly I'll walk away from the thread all together. Sometimes I know someone is just trying to push my buttons and I just ignore them entirely.

    I won't say I am 100% successful with this tactic. Sometimes things hit too close to home and I react too quickly. But I do try to. And there are a lot of posts which never make it to the 'preview' stage. There are also a lot of posts where I rant at my poor other half but never actually respond (or respond much later when I've had a chance to calm down and think).

     I also try to keep this same policy with my kids (except where their safety requires me to speak up immediately). I'll send them to another room for a while so I can cool off before I address their behavior.  My son has always seemed to feed off of other people's emotions. If you approach him with anger and aggression he reflects that back. If you can keep your cool and talk to him, he doesn't get as defensive and you can get your point across even if he doesn't like it much.

    So yes, when I run across someone ranting at me and poking buttons I treat them exactly as I do my autistic teenager. :P

    "Madness! Total and complete madness! This never would've happened if the humans hadn't started fighting one another!" Londo Mollari

    by FloridaSNMOM on Thu Dec 20, 2012 at 05:49:33 AM PST

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