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    too, although this just may be me, to realize that the things we say to others we might just want to listen to for ourselves. For example, calling people idjits etc. might mean that we call ourselves that way to often and we ourselves ding ourselves way too often so why not end the practice period. No more calling people idjits (including ourselves). And sometimes when we give other people advice that advice might be something WE should listen to.

    One practice that we need to stop, imo, is thinking that we cannot change the other side's mind. (They are this and they are that and they just won't hear what we have to say blah blah blah) When we do this we automatically foreclose any ability to come to a meeting of the minds.

    So, and this is advice to me: when things get hot and heavy and you have written a scorching (or at least you think so) diatribe and heaped all kinds of rhetoric on your opponents' heads, how does it sound if it were said to you? (All mention of the word "you" replace with I and me as I was thinking of myself in this context.)

    BUT that doesn't preclude you from saying I feel blank when you say blank. Feelings are way more important than we give them credit for. We keep (again this is me (I keep) hiding from them because they are so scary! But THIS THIS is how we begin to relate. I am scared and I know YOU might be scared and we might be scared of the same things.

    American Television is a vast sea of stupid. -xxdr zombiexx

    by glitterscale on Thu Dec 20, 2012 at 07:06:49 AM PST

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