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  •  Me too. I strive for understanding and being (4+ / 0-)
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    sensitive to the rape issue.

    I fully acknowledge that, since, not having been through that experience, I cannot know what it is like for people who have. I reread this one a couple of times, because I'm cognizant for reasons just stated.

    I still went away unconvinced this was rape, though I don't doubt the experience, overall, with this guy, may have been hurtful.

    For guys, almost exclusively, the accusation of rape is a Big Fucking Deal.




    Somebody has to do something, and it's just incredibly pathetic that it has to be us.
    ~ Jerry Garcia

    by DeadHead on Fri Dec 21, 2012 at 06:09:06 PM PST

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    •  Unfortunately, not a big enough deal (1+ / 0-)
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      to make sure it's really not rape & can't be perceived as rape.

      And certainly a lot of guys do not think it's a big f*ing deal at all when they rape other people.

      But then, common good sense isn't common enough.

      (Speaking as a survivor ... )

      Something that doesn't make good sense, makes bad sense. That means someone is being deliberately hurtful & selfish. Look for motives behind actions & words.

      by CA wildwoman on Fri Dec 21, 2012 at 11:45:03 PM PST

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      •  Clearly there's no shortage of (1+ / 0-)
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        assholes out there who rape, and don't think of the consequences of their actions, and, as a result, do incredible damage as a result.

        I wasn't referring to men on a gender-wide level, and I in no way make excuses for the degenerate members of my gender.

        But in circumstances such as illustrated in the diary, where there's some degree of controversy as to the circumstances and the states of mind of the people involved, I felt compelled to remind that there are guys out there who've ended up in jail for a crime they didn't commit.




        Somebody has to do something, and it's just incredibly pathetic that it has to be us.
        ~ Jerry Garcia

        by DeadHead on Sat Dec 22, 2012 at 04:31:28 AM PST

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