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  •  GET A LAWYER NOW. (15+ / 0-)

    Here in PA they have the PA Education Law Center, which is a nonprofit. It's a starting point, they give great advice ontheir site, even if it isn't TX. They have violated both your child's rights, and your rights as a caregiver. It's Friday night, right before Christmas break, so there's not much you can do for the next 5 days, except research... so first go to my blog, zizismom.com, on parenting with special needs and forget about reading the blog - just start reading the Awesome Parent Links that are on the side,and there's a link to the PA Ed. Law Center there.

    I have no idea what the laws are in TX, but somebody in your local Parent-2-Parent will be able to help you get started, even thought hey can't make recommendations or give any kind of legal advice.. for that, you need to network with other parents and get lawyer's names. You CAN do internet searches for private schools in your area (usually called "Independent Schools" in searches) for both learning disabilities like ADHD and for Autism spectrum.

    From this post, it looks like you actually have TWO children with diagnosed disabilities (ADHD is recognized as a disability and covered under the Americans with Disabilities Act) who are being denied access to their education, and so I'd say you at the very least need to get someone who can work as an advocate for your kids, and explain your rights to you FROM YOUR SIDE OF THE TABLE.

    Luminous beings are we, not this crude matter. ~ Yoda Political Compass: -8.50, -6.46

    by Cinnamon on Fri Dec 21, 2012 at 03:36:11 PM PST

    •  Are you an attorney? (1+ / 0-)
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      Just wondering how you know that they have ' violated both your child's rights and your rights as a caregiver.'

      I am a special education teacher, in Texas, and I have some idea what the laws are in Texas. I would not dream of giving legal advice, much less from a thousand miles away.

      •  No, I'm "just a mom" (6+ / 0-)

        But I'm sure you guessed that as you weighed in with your impressive credentials, the ones that keep you from even dreaming of offering any solid, practical help to a desperate mother who at the very least has been treated abominably by her school district, but yet give you all the chutzpah you need to speak up to undermine the advice which was given from one parent to another.

        You can thank your colleagues in PA for all the reasons WHY I gave that advice, since they made it necessary for me to close up an incorporated business, and take on learning about, and fighting for, my child's education as my full-time job for 5 years.

        BTW, littlefire, once in a very long while, you find a REAL teacher, who truly cares, who is confined by her job but who is willing to literally walk outside the building, and cross the street, to talk to you honestly and give you the real deal on what the hell is going on and what your kid needs, even if it is off the record. Treasure them.

        Luminous beings are we, not this crude matter. ~ Yoda Political Compass: -8.50, -6.46

        by Cinnamon on Fri Dec 21, 2012 at 06:32:07 PM PST

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        •  From another "just a mom" who (6+ / 0-)

          had to deal with similar bullshit in Pa. a long time ago- it was remarkable how the professionals changed their attitudes once they knew we had hired an attorney. We wound up never even needing his services cause all of a sudden everything magically fell into place.

          Not to mention that "get a lawyer" is not legal advice, it's suggesting that someone get legal advice. And it's a great suggestion.

          •  For what its worth.. (7+ / 0-)

            I may be just a mom too, but I do know that Ive been pushed around, talked down to, and ignored for way too long. This district appears to be banking on the idea that I won't know what to do. (Which is why Im reaching out, I know enough to know I don't have to just accept this .. I just don't know what steps to take)..  What I will never understand is why so many teachers and administrators seem determined to see us parents as enemies and fight us rather than working with us

            His fire, their mommy. I never wanted to be different, I just wanted to be me.

            by littlefire on Fri Dec 21, 2012 at 08:29:04 PM PST

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            •  Yep. (6+ / 0-)

              That's the point of me saying, I'm "just a mom"... I'm THE  expert on my kid. I'm the hub of all information and communication for the whole support team that treats her. I've actually had the psychologist, in front of me, tell someone else that I know as much as any PhD at this point on her issues... and I sure as hell have clocked thousands of hours more "field time" than anyone else on her team.

              NEVER let some suit tell you who your kid is or what they have in terms of ability or potential.

              Best video I've seen is this. I disagree with the part he goes on about ADHD being an made-up epidemic, - I have an ADHD kid with a chromosome deletion to prove it -  but otherwise... the video nails it.

              Luminous beings are we, not this crude matter. ~ Yoda Political Compass: -8.50, -6.46

              by Cinnamon on Fri Dec 21, 2012 at 09:37:07 PM PST

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