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    Apost8, TrueBlueMajority, averybird

    Hola kaminpdx,

    The comments from Killer of Sacred Cows and CherryTheTart were right on the money. For some insight into what they meant, you can download Altemeyer's book "The Authoritarians" here. My mother seems to be a clone of yours. After I read that book, I was able to understand why she is the way she is and allowed me to respond to her with compassion and understanding rather than bristling up and feeling like I had to bite my tongue all the time. It doesn't change the way she is, but it allows me to understand why she is the way she is and appreciate that it is not only not intentional on her part, but she doesn't have a clue that she is in any way inconsistent. I know now that there is nothing I can do to get her attention . . . and that the more that I were to try to do so, the more threatening it would be to her and the more likely that there would be irreparable damage done to our relationship. There are some "back doors" that one can try and Altemeyer talks about some of them . . .

    I would recommend as strongly as I can that you take a crack at reading Altemeyer's book. I really think it would help you understand the situation and help you figure out how to manage your relationship with your mother.

    My  0.02$CURRENCY

    "The water won't clear up 'til we get the hogs out of the creek." -- Jim Hightower

    by lartwielder on Thu Dec 27, 2012 at 07:57:53 PM PST

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