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  •  I doubt if Adam Lanza's home schooling (8+ / 0-)

    Had anything to do with the carnage he inflicted.  From all accounts I have seen, his mother was not some brainwashed fundamentalist nutcase afraid of the librul commie atheist teaching public schools, but was reacting to the fact that both the public schools were having trouble dealing with her mildly autistic son, and he was having trouble dealing with the schools.

    "We have always known that heedless self-interest was bad morals, now we know that it is bad economics." Franklin Delano Roosevelt, Jan. 20, 1937

    by Navy Vet Terp on Sat Dec 29, 2012 at 07:45:54 PM PST

    •  What was she doing with all those guns? It (5+ / 0-)

      seems to me that she was part of the coming apopcalypse crowd.  No?

    •  Apparently (0+ / 0-)

      she took Adam out of school several times when she disagreed with the school's IEP (Individual Education Plan) which is required for all special needs students. We dealt with the public schools and with IEPs for our autistic son and never felt the need to take him out of school. We had a good idea what his capabilities were and what his/our rights were and we weren't afraid to fight for a proper plan or to mention the law (and lawyers) if need be. It sounds to me like she thought her son was getting the short end of the stick no matter what was proposed, and that she overlooked his obvious problems to focus on his supposed "brilliance". It seems her idea was more unschooling (not a really good thing for an ASD person, who really needs routine) and pushing him into college classes where he was probably even more of a misfit. I know, conjecture, but I am speaking from things I do know as the mother of an ASD person.

      Being "pro-life" means believing that every child born has a right to food, education, and access to health care.

      by Jilly W on Sun Dec 30, 2012 at 10:05:06 AM PST

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      •  while your experiences (0+ / 0-)

        are valuable in applying to your child, I think it is a mistake to generalize to what is or is not "good for an ASD person."  As a speech-language pathologist who has worked long-term with a wide range of children on the spectrum,  and long-long-time unschooler I am aware of many children on the spectrum who do much better with unschooling as it can uniquely adapt to the individual's needs.  I have participated in an unschooling international email list called UL, and have read countless stories of successful unschooling of children with ASD or Asperger's.  Each child is different and each parent and their style is different.  There is no one-size-fits-all way to educate children.  any type of children. period.  

        One of the advantages unschooling (which is more of a philosophy than a method) offers is what is strongly recommended when working with children on the spectrum:  find what they like and use it as a bridge to learning goals.   Unschoolers typically provide the amount of structure that a particular child needs, which can range from minimal to maximal.  If a child needs routine, that can easily be part of unschooling.  I think people often misunderstand what unschooling actually means.  

        And just because you found no need to take him out of school doesn't mean that many other parents have not found that leaving or never even sending the child in the first place has been the best choice.  Every situation is different.  And yes, often a classroom setting is much better than a home setting.  There are really no absolutes and each family has the freedom and burden of charting their own path--which is not easy.  

        My sense is that Adam Lanza's mother was struggling in ways that are typical to many families when they have a child with significant special needs.  All parents have hits and misses and make mistakes, fortunately typically not with such horrific consequences.    She deserves our sympathy.  Nobody gives you the road map when these kids are born.  And some kids are truly unbelievably challenging.  

        One positive thing I have seen in Medicaid is that we now have a very highly qualified behavior specialist that can work with children on the Michelle P. waiver program.  She goes to their home, school, and outpatient therapy settings and sets up behavior management plans to help teachers, parents, and therapists deal more effectively with behavior problems of these children.  Unfortunately, the high functioning child with Asperger's often does not qualify for Michelle P. waiver services and the alternatives eg. Impact Plus, are not as skilled in addressing needs, from what I can see.

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