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  •  Oh, (32+ / 0-)

    and I'm scheduled for another surgery this coming February.  Needless to say I'm not pleased.

    Fortunately I will have someone with me who will advocate, although I believe I may have to choose between advocacy while I'm in the hospital (3 days) and assistance for the first few days after I get home.

    I can't ask someone who is coming from out of state and will have a brand new grandchild to stay with me for an entire week.

    Another reason why being single is a total turd.

    Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek. Barack Obama

    by delphine on Sun Dec 30, 2012 at 02:46:12 PM PST

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    •  My heart really goes out to you (22+ / 0-)

      I'm also single and in the same boat. The only relative is in S. Calif. (I'm in N. Calif.) and I'm not sure I'd trust her as an advocate. The only friend I'd want as an advocate is on the opposite coast. So I may be shit out of luck.

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      by Mr Robert on Sun Dec 30, 2012 at 03:31:08 PM PST

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      •  Someone at work (20+ / 0-)

        said I should go to hospice after the hospital to get cared for.

        Based on my experience, "hospice" to me means "last stop before the funeral home".

        Maybe she meant convalescent home?

        In any event, the last thing I need is to subject myself to people who, for the most part, care even less than hospital staff about my well being.

        I'm in SoCal and my "helper" lives in another state.  I'm lucky to have her for as many days as she is willing.

        Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek. Barack Obama

        by delphine on Sun Dec 30, 2012 at 03:40:08 PM PST

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        •  Some Hospices (17+ / 0-)

          provide interim care for those who can't really be on their own yet.

          Eat, drink, and be fat and drunk.

          by Ref on Sun Dec 30, 2012 at 03:59:22 PM PST

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        •  some larger SNFs (11+ / 0-)

          do both hospice and rehab admissions

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          by TrueBlueMajority on Sun Dec 30, 2012 at 06:17:46 PM PST

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        •  Possibly a rehab place... (5+ / 0-)

          There are two where I live, and the ortho wouldn't let me be home alone after I had knee replacement surgery (I am single, don't live with anyone), so I had to check in one of those rehab places.  Half of each facility has assisted living apartments for senior citizens who can mostly sort of be on their own but need help for certain things, the other half was for rehab patients who had had various surgeries: knee replacement, hip replacement, and the like, and down a couple of halls was a therapy room to practice walking or doing rehab exercises to have muscles get used to the new hardware.  [I detested one of the rehab people because she was a religious freak.  UGH!  My regular rehab person was nice, and she just discovered she was preggers with the third child while I was there.]

          After two weeks I was ready to climb the walls.  No lock on the door (I get that because med emergencies probably happen)..., BUT there was a senile old woman who roamed the halls talking to herself - she never went in the rooms, but still... it creeped me out and I had awful insomnia and rarely slept well, just cat-napped.

          The BEST thing I can say for the local hospital and each of the two rehab/nursing places is that each has free WiFi.  Without internet contact to the outside world from the laptop I brought with me, I'd have gone stark raving mad (emailing brother and relatives and friends - there was no phone in my rehab room!).

          The way the surgery schedule worked out, surgery was on a Friday, I was the only patient in the ortho wing when I had my knee replacement surgery, it was close to the nurse's station, so I got lots of attention whenever I rang.  The nursing and rehab staff who came daily were great, actually.  I did have one glitch.  Without underwear, I asked for something to wear for when I had to lift my leg off the chair for rehab exercises, and whatever was in that papery pair of underpants I was allergic to.  I don't recall they ever said what it was, but OMFG, the itching on every part of skin surface it had touched was unbearable and while I could get my belly and privates, I had to ask for nursing staff to wash my butt off with soap and water instead of that chemically-treated wash stuff in a packet and they applied a cream or lotion of some kind, but all they had was some crappy aloe + lotion in a tube which did very little toward relieving the itch, but it felt sort of soothing.  Ugh.  Just thinking about it makes me feel like I'm breaking out in that same instant rash.

          The food was lousy at both places.  I don't know how they can ruin perfectly good food, but they do.  I have a long list of allergies (which I told them about), but they almost always managed to send something I couldn't or wouldn't eat because it smelled like garbage.  At both the hospital and rehab the head of the kitchens came to talk with me to see if they could send me something palatable, but dried potatoes with chemicals added and boiled meat that's been barely fried to try to fool me to get me to eat a pork chop I knew had been boiled or steamed was NOT how to get me to eat something.  I ended up eating a lot of fruits and puddings and oatmeal.  At the rehab place I twice called for pizza to be delivered.

          Bathing was not private at the rehab facility.  THAT got to me.  There was a huge room with various types of bathing facilities for wheelchair people, walking people, those who had to be put in slings and lowered into a tub, etc.  Gaaaaaaaaag!  I had to have my leg wrapped in clear plastic wrap to protect the incision part and use a wheelie chair (it had a bathroom seat for what was, I suppose, a way to wash people who couldn't manage to even wash their privates).  I have soap issues, so I had brought my own soap and shampoo and new washing sponge which I had in a clear plastic cosmetics case and my toothbrush and toothpaste were in there, too, in a separate plastic bag.

          I think there's a hospice place in town, too..., but it's not at the rehab and assisted living facilities.

          You might want to call each place where you live and see what they offer for patients.  Maybe someone is using the word 'hospice' in the old fashioned sense, as a place to rest and recuperate.

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          by NonnyO on Mon Dec 31, 2012 at 06:15:41 AM PST

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    •  I would suggest (19+ / 0-)

      if you think a need for aftercare in a rehab is even a remote possibility do some research NOW before you go in. Find out which ones take your insurance, visit them, ask around. Then if it comes to you having to use one, you'll have that information on hand.

      As someone who used to work in them, and did my externships for OTA in them, not all rehab facilities are the same. Some have very caring and very good staff, some do not. Write down your top three picks and take that with you in case you need it. If it comes up, give that list (or a copy of it) to the social services worker who will be responsible for finding you a placement.

      This is important whether you are going for yourself or a loved one. The hospital usually only has a couple of days to decide on a placement and find a bed, and there won't always be one available in your first choice.

      "Madness! Total and complete madness! This never would've happened if the humans hadn't started fighting one another!" Londo Mollari

      by FloridaSNMOM on Sun Dec 30, 2012 at 04:12:29 PM PST

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    •  I think we need to find a way (3+ / 0-)
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      to develop people like this in our lives. I am on my own as well, and very conscious of how far away most people who I know and trust are.

      In my case I approached a young woman at my co-op who I often talked to as she cashiered, and learned that she and her partner did housecleaning. I thought, that means they have a car (I don't), and so I asked what their per-hour was for cleaning. Then later on asked if I could call them in if I were to have surgery and needed a non-taxi ride home. They were very welcoming.

      I'm now far more determined to meet and get to know my neighbors and allow them to get a sense of who I am and at least feel friendly.

      I find people who have been in relatively secure relationships all their lives have absolutely no idea of what it means to be living by oneself.

      •  They really don't. (2+ / 0-)
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        One suggested I ask my son.

        This will involve to some extent assistance to the bathroom and related stuff.

        While one day he might end up changing my diapers (heaven forbid), I am nowhere near the position where I would subject him to this.  So humiliating for both of us.

        Fortunately this relative has experience and a good deal of compassion.  She'll be great during those first few days.

        Although my brother said "what about after those three days"?

        I had no answer.  Of course, neither did he.

        Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek. Barack Obama

        by delphine on Mon Dec 31, 2012 at 09:48:21 AM PST

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        •  Yes, we are in blue sky country - (1+ / 0-)
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          a new era - along with quite a few others, I think.

          We need some new kind of bureau - to which one could look for people able to and interested in lending a hand, probably for compensation. One with insider knowledge of hospital craziness, yet also a great capacity for friendship.

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